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1st kiss situation (with herpes)

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My personal opinion is that for anyone who DOESN'T have HSV-1 (also known as oral herpes), which is only 20% of Americans 14-49 (yes, you did the math right: 80% of Americans have oral herpes), then it falls on them to ask the person they're about to kiss if they get cold sores. In my opinion, when an overwhelming majority of people have it, then those who don't have it (and want to keep it that way) are the ones who need to disclose that they DON'T have it. ;) Maybe you could call it "reverse disclosure." Here's how it might sound: "Hey, I don't have oral herpes (I know, what are the chances, right?) and I would rather not get it. I'm wondering ... do you get cold sores?"


Here's a longer discussion on this exact topic:



Also, in reference to you saying you also have HSV-2, I'm assuming you don't get outbreaks on your lip with HSV-2 (that's pretty rare, if so) ... Herpes type 2 prefers the below-the-belt region. So that sort of disclosure would only come into play when that area is in play.


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