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Looking for some comfort and support and answers about Valtrex

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So I just found out I have herpes...I had one negative blood test followed by a positive one a month later.  My husband has had genital herpes for a year but rarely has out breaks so I always knew there was a possibility that I would get it.  I have had one outbreak in two months. 

Heres the thing...I am so obsessive. We have a toddler and I am spending so much time worrying about her catching this.  I’m washing my hands about 7 million times a day. Any time I touch the waistband of my pants.  My dr called me in a prescription for Valtrex because she knows about my worrisome tendencies but then I read about the side effects and so now I’m worries to take it.  I’ve always dealt with a bit of depression, anxiety and obsessive compulsive disorder and I’m so afraid this medicine will make those things worse. 

I guess my question is do I need to be taking it if my partner already has it.  My dr says it’s highly unlikely to spread to my child through every day living but I just need to do everything in my power to protect her.  My outbreak was on the top of my buttocks and my daughter sleeps in our bed and I always sleep in pants but I’m so worried she’ll accidentally touch it. My husband has had it for my daughter’s whole life but by w with me I’m worrying so much more for some reason. 

Part of me, the rational part, just wants to calm down about it. My outbreak really wasn’t severe. It’s gone now. My daughter hasn’t caught it from my husband who doesn’t worry about much about it at all.  The other part of me is going through bottles of hand sanitizer and is afraid to go swimming with my beautiful girl. 

i guess I’m just looking for some comfort and reassurance and thoughts on the medications. Thank you! 

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Hello and welcome! 👋 

I have a 17-month old so I hear you. Irrational fears are just a way that our love shows up for our children. 😉 

Your doc is right: It’s hard to spread via viral shedding in non-sexual everyday touching. Since the cure for paranoia is knowledge, check out this article:


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