Disclosing on Tinder

[hopebegetsus]

Thoughts on simply adding a line on my tinder mentioning that I have herpes?

I’m visiting a friend in the coming weeks in a city that I don’t frequent. And I know that there’s a lot of us, we’re just not open about it. It’ll help me thin the crowd and save me the rejection before the fact. If all goes well, I’ll be able to connect with other positives. ☺️

[mr_hopp]

Hey @hopebegetsus! In my experience, it's best to wait until you know them and they know you (enough to where you feel you can trust them with your vulnerability) — to see each other as flesh-and-blood human beings instead of just a flat avatar on the web. And of course, it's a double-edged sword since getting to know someone more before disclosing is going to make it that much more vulnerable with more skin in the game, but it also has the potential to bring way more connection and realness. And yes, there are a lot of people who have herpes, but only 20% of us are even aware that we have it, so it's a smaller pool than you might think.