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Hi guyS! I was wondering if any of you have tried monolaurin???? I am taking Lysine and coconut oil with lauric acid, but apparently monolaurin is a more potent/effective thing?? Is it?? Any thoughts on what the perfect mixture and dosage???

Have you changed your diet??? Are you taking vitamins/supplements??

Hello there! @Ryan_msfirst of all... good or you that you are taking this seriously and understand that you have to disclose. As you might read from this and other site most of us women who are in this situation contracted H from a partner who knew and decided not to tell us and not to care enough about us to take preventive measures. I got diagnosed a little over a month ago and I am feeling sth very similar... also wanting to meet someone special and share with that person. I am actually wondering whether that comes from an urgency caused by our diagnosis or if it's more like enlightenment from the super deep retrospection one goes into after being diagnosed. This site has a free guide on how to disclose, if you are really considering that. However, I would suggest you take a little longer to get to know this girl, until you feel comfortable with her and actually certain that you can trust her. You are going to make yourself very vulnerable and probably it will be an emotional situation because this is your first time doing this, so make sure you've spent enough time with her to know that she will be empathetic and/or more importantly, make sure that you are in place were you'll be able to get a hold on yourself if you get rejection or any negative answer to your disclosure. On that matter, let me tell you you are already proving to be a honorable individual by being here, reaching out, asking for help and acknowledging that no person with H should ever be intimate with another person without disclosing. It takes courage, but it will make us stronger and will give us peace of mind. Good luck, let us know how it went!

@Chillydaffodilglad to see you are doing better! did you try the Epson salts in that bath???

@Halfdyme Ohh dear... I'm sorry you are going through this. I have a very similar experience. I talked to the doctor and got tested...I am still negative because my body does not have antibodies against the virus. I am positive this last partner gave it to me and the worst part is that he knew, after my first ob he gave me some information that clearly screams H. He just decided to live in denial about it. I actually wonder if statistics about the ratio women/men with H might be a bit skewed because I've heard of so many men who decide to go about their lives as if H was not even a thing...somehow denial for them is an option and that puts so many of us at risk. Now... if this guy walks out that is his loss. By reading your story I can see you've been strong, honest and that you haven't allowed the emotional or physical to ruin your sense of humor. That's the right attitude! Know that a lot of us are on the same boat and that we are here if you need to talk! xx

@Chillydaffodil take that Epson Salt bath! Try some nice warm water with lime and green tea (no sugar, sugar gives viruses a perfect place to grow). And don't dismiss topical ointments like acyclovir or even coconut oil. Also you can mix the oil with a bit of sore throat spray and that will numb the affected area.

Lol, don't do that.... wine feeds the virus! Don't panic. Look your body right now is going try and fight the virus and all kind of strange symptoms will come. Eat clean while your ob is on, try not to eat processed food, go for food high in lysine and if you can take supplement from now.. 3000 of lysine daily might help. FOR PAIN> yes, you can use aleve or tylenol or try dolac with b vitamin complex...that goes straight to your nerves and it is pretty good at allowing you to sleep, however, it is a bit hard on your liver and stomach. No worries. I'll try to give you as much information as I possibly can.

sores could start filling with liquid and then popping... or maybe they have already popped but you just didn't feel it?? If you have acyclovir cream, that could help you to make them heal faster/ apply with qtip. Epsom salt baths will help with the pain and the burning. You can also try coconut oil after the epsom salt bath. BTW.. don't touch the blisters. Try using a hair dryer on low/cold to dry your genital area. Ibuprofen could help ease the pain, but drink plenty of liquids since you are already taking acyclovir. You want to take care of your liver. And yes... first OB can be pretty painful. Hold on in there.

Hi everybody! One month in this thing... still feels like a nightmare, but I have to be thankful for having a wonderful family who've been really supportive through it all. I haven't told friends yet. I think I am still trying to make peace and experiencing the emotional roller coaster. I'm a female, 31 in DC area. I't be great to have someone to talk to

Hi guys! It sucks right? Here's the thing. We need to take it step by step. I'm only a month in, but I have already cried myself to sleep like 15 of those 30 days, I've spent more hours researching on internet than working, I've been judged by the woman at the clinic, told I "do not have the same thing" as the guy who gave me this thing -needless to say, he's been removed from my life...and not for having a virus, but for being completely careless and insensitive-. What else? I've experienced anxiety, insomnia and something that felt like a panic attack, also I think I might have gotten med intoxication from the super high dose of acyclovir I got prescribed on my first ob. OHHH.. and I've already had a second ob... probably because of all the crazy stress. HOWEVER... if I learnt anything in the last month is that it is ok to feel sad, angry, confused, guilty and n negatives.... BUT, we have to try to focus on all the positives. The positives now. Not the in the future blah... and my next relationship blah.. and what if/what if not. 1 in 5 ppl ages 13 to 46 live with this...80 percent don't even know. It is up to us to decide how we want to live and pain is inevitable but suffering is optional, so take it one step at the time. You are here, you are still who you were before this happened and you still have everything you had before to make life amazing for yourselves...if anything a little bit more challenging. But now you are stronger, and you are wiser!

Hello @Jenny333 I'm one month in with this thing, so it's fairly recent for me too. I've already had 2 obs and even thou my test was still negative because I just got exposed to the virus by a partner I had been with for a year...but who just told me he had it once I called him during my first ob -tears, pain and all-. Needless to say he won't be in my life anymore. Ok... I was just sharing that to give you some context..Now. About your situation. Breath. In and out. Breath again. You are going to be fine and you will be able to carry on with your life. Take one step at the time. Don't focus on the too much on the future yet. First think about you and taking care of yourself. Eat well, try avoiding things that contain too much arganine so you put a leash on the ob's. Remember that far beyond the stigma, Herpes is a skin condition. First ob's is soo incredibly frightening and heart breaking because you don't know how it is or sometimes not even know what it is. Breath. Try concentrating in the positive things in your life. Take one step at the time and whenever you feel lonely or lost reach out. Thumbs up for you because you are already doing it!