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  1. Mine are always different. First OB was mild. One sore with flu like symptoms and swollen node that just faded away within a week. No scabs. Second was terrible. No feeling of illness but mass of sores that scabbed in a different area and took weeks and weeks to heal. I’ve had several since then and all have been relatively small outbreaks and all in the genital area but a different location. Sometimes the inner labia is affected, sometimes the outer labia and it changes sides at will. This OB after my first 18mnths ago, is quite severe and probably the most painful yet with a general feeling of illness and a swollen node again. But in fairness, Ive never been so stressed as I am now. I don’t think my OB’s are ever gonna follow the norm by the looks of it.
  2. I’m late to this but I’m also in the U.K. my nurse couldn’t have cared less and made me feel as though I was taking up her precious time. it’s so hard to get any meds, that I buy mine online. And it’s not cheap is it. I can’t afford it as a suppressive therapy but I like to have some on hand to head an outbreak off if I can.
  3. I’m late to this post but I always try and add my own experiences in case someone is looking for answers. I’ve had HSV2 for around 18 months. I’ve had several occurrences with varying degrees of severity. Sometimes I get swollen, painful lymph glands in my groin with the OB. Sometimes I don’t. But from my experience, it’s certainly not something that only happens with a primary outbreak. I have an ob now and my gland in my groin is very large and tender and this is about my 8th.
  4. So. My story is long and complex as is everyone’s here. But lately, I’m trying so hard to focus on self help rather than self pity and in doing so, I’ve come across studies of aspirin having a significant effect on herpetic recurrence. Apparently, people who take a small dose of aspirin every day, have significantly less or no OB’s for the duration. I am not in any way in favour of people doing so without the advice of their GP because long term aspirin use carries significant health risks of its own. Does anyone have any thoughts or personal experience?
  5. Thank you for your reply. I cannot face the humiliation of visiting my GP again. I had a terrible experience both times that I went there for help. ( I am currently in the muddle of a house move so I will change doctors very soon and try again) and it would be terribly difficult but not impossible for me to visit a clinic ( I am a full time carer and It is difficult to find the free time that coincides with clinic and waiting times) so I’d rather not unless I absolutely must. The itching has completely subsided and has given way to the pain of an open ulcer/ulcers. It would seem that extreme itching may well be my prodrome. I suppose it’s still relatively early days for me and I’m still trying to learn about my H. could I ask you one question? Do you believe OB’s can be triggered by stress? many thanks for your help.
  6. So, I was diagnosed with GHSV in August ‘18. Second outbreak 5months later was the worst ( probably because I had a severe illness), and have had sporadic but comparatively milder outbreaks since then. fast forward to now, and I am under incredible stress and pressure at the moment. I have several big problems not least being a single mother and in the middle of a house move. I have Unsurprisingly developed a really big OB very similar to my second. Very uncomfortable and sore and I’m feeling a bit run down and very tired but MY GOD! What is this itching on and near the OB?? It’s driving me seriously nuts and I never had itching like this before. It’s intense and constant. Can somebody please tell me this doesn’t mean the OB is infected. I’ve been keeping it very clean and treating with antiseptic. Is this normal or what? I can’t take it! thanks in advance x
  7. Thank you for replying. I’m so low at the moment. I don’t know where to turn. Since my first post about having only small outbreaks, I’ve developed a big one that’s very painful and I think it’s making me feel like crap in general but I may be just overly sensitive. I am moving house at the moment along with some other problems that have probably brought it on but I’m pretty self aware. I honestly don’t know why I can’t get a grip on this and make progress with it. again, thanks for taking the time to talk. It means a lot.
  8. Yes. I get both too and have done only since HSV diagnosis.
  9. Such an open and honest account. Positivity is great! and sometimes very uplifting.... but it’s not day to day reality is it. Good for you for being brave enough to try and date even though it didn’t work out and for sharing your story even though it’s not shrouded in inspirational quotes and a testimony about how wonderful life is with an incurable virus! I’m not even brave enough to consider trying and I know I never will. A long standing romantic interest has become available and shown more than mutual interest after nearly 20 years. I have run for the hills and sacrificed a friendship rather than disclose! 20 years of wanting it and now it’s been taken away from me. By a virus. And my unwillingness to risk being judged unfairly. it is just a sometimes uncomfortable skin rash. That fact makes me really sad. The virus doesn’t have many real significant health risks and yet mentally, it’s the most destructive thing I’ve ever faced. All because of stigma. a harsh but true reality for us. thanks for taking the time to post. It will make people feel less alone in the reality of how they really feel. x
  10. It’s possible but it’s possible that it’s other things too. Nobody other than a qualified medic who has tested you can tell you that it’s definitely GH. Go to a sexual health clinic and put your mind at rest.
  11. We have to find a way to go on. Somehow. I just don’t know how.im in awe of you for even facing “ the talk” in the first place. I’m a coward! I was diagnosed 11th August 2018. And it has absolutely ruined my life. I am resigned to being single forever because I refuse to put anyone else at risk without their knowledge and yet I know I’ll never tell a soul so long as I live. My outbreaks are now very few compared to the first year. I get one only now when I have an illness. Particularly a cold. That’s the only time. And it’s one, slightly uncomfortable sore that heals within hours now and not weeks which strengthens my resolve to not use anti virals although, I wish I had the courage sometimes to go to my sexual health clinic and be honest because even a tiny outbreak, takes me into a depression that drags me back down into self loathing and deep regret, but I just can’t. I just can’t find the strength. I’ve lost all interest in everything from my personal appearance to my home and work. I tried counselling but I just couldn’t bring myself to say the words. I just don’t know how to make this bearable. Im a single mum also, to 3 daughters. Two still at home. I know your loneliness and I don’t intend to make you feel worse... just let you know that you are definitely not alone. x
  12. Thank you for your support when I desperately needed it. . It’s been a while. I hope you’re well Xx
  13. I’m in the UK 40... 😮 ..... something year old. Happy to be friendly . “ Here is the world. Beautiful and terrible things will happen. Don’t be afraid.^
  14. I suspect I have BV, which I have read can worsen outbreaks (all the symptoms are there) and I said as much to my gp. I had swabs for bacteria and yeast, results came back that no action was needed. I’m not convinced.... the anti virals have worked well when taken episodically, I have every faith that they would work as a suppressant but I know that I would have to visit the sexual health clinic to access that kind of treatment ( I’m in the UK, and that seems to be how it works). I have no issue going there and have done so many times for contraception etc but bloody herpes...I’m not judgmental in the slightest and its not something that would bother me if someone were to confide in me that they had it. It is after all, for the most part, a common, non life threatening skin condition but it carries a terrible stigma whether we like it or not. I’m a strong person but I do have a tendency to stick my head in the sand. I guess I can’t get away with that this time as i suspect this is subconsciously bothering me more than I like to admit. I have to face the guilt, Shame and regret. Not to mention the self loathing. All normal emotions I would expect but difficult nonetheless. My stress levels are off the scale. Not much can be done about that at present so you’re right. Good treatment is the answer. I feel I should be making the effort to be more positive as I know reading positive posts on here when I was first diagnosed was a god send. I am trying I promise. Again. Thank you so much for taking the time to respond. It’s appreciated. 🙂
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