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  1. Ok, this isn’t an easy one to answer. If you insisted he use a condom but he didn’t, then yes I can understand you feel violated.. what you choose to do about it now is up to you but there is no way of knowing you contracted it from him unless you have an HSV blood test now that can possibly determine a new infection but even then, you said there has been others. HSV can lie undetected ( dormant) for weeks, months or even years. A partner could have given it to you years ago and only now has it chosen to activate. A blood test can sometimes be a clear indicator of a new or old infection. I can understand it’s difficult for you both. It’s normal for your boyfriend and you to feel regretful and angry whilst you cone to terms with the diagnosis. But if you both went for the HSV blood test, you could find out where you both stand and whether your partner is already infected or not. If not, then there are medications and easy steps to prevent passing it to him, if he tests positive as you have, then things become a little easier. It is not a death sentence. Many of us actually do live our bests lives with this virus. It’s a virus, it’s not a disease.it isn’t the end of the world even if it sometimes feels like it and trust me when I say I’ve had my days!
  2. Hi, akirn. it’s just a case of finding a good doctor with reasonable knowledge of HSV in the U.K. I think. They do exist, you just have to find one. honestly, judging by social media, I think the stigma is the same here as the U.S. but then I’ve not been brave enough to disclose to anyone to give you my personal experience. But I hope it goes well for you in your relationship. Be strong. x
  3. Also, hot baths with salt ( table/sea) eases pain and itching. And I swear by Sudocreme straight from the fridge when I have a sore/sores. xx
  4. Hi SAS1991, firstly, you will be ok. You need time to come to terms with your new situation, and that in itself can take a bit of time. Be kind to yourself and know that you are not alone. I’ve had HSV for nearly two years and as I write this, I’m in the middle of my second OB in two months. ( I’m under a bit of stress atm). I’m in the U.K. too and your initial outbreak sounds identical to mine. One sore, fever, swollen nodes in my groin, but the irritation and discomfort was much more widespread and took a good few weeks to settle completely after the OB. I too used vagisil a lot in those early days. The itching is, in my experience, very common after an OB has healed. it’s impossible to say how the virus will affect you as no two people react the same to it and it can and does have a mind of it’s own sometimes. Time will tell how your body handles it. It’s completely normal to be paranoid about sex causing another OB ( as was I) but a good tip is lots of lube as friction and irritation are known to trigger outbreaks, especially in those early days. Lube,lube and lots of lube. If you get many or particularly troublesome OB’s and symptoms, you can discuss taking acyclovir as a preventative measure with your GP or SH clinic and see how you go. xx
  5. I wish I had the answer but I don’t. The same thing is happening to me. I’m on my 3rd OB in a month and It’s very frustrating not to mention painful. I honestly don’t think that there’s a straightforward answer. I’m starting to believe that It’s all down to genetics as to how we handle a virus that has a mind if it’s own!
  6. Mine are always different. First OB was mild. One sore with flu like symptoms and swollen node that just faded away within a week. No scabs. Second was terrible. No feeling of illness but mass of sores that scabbed in a different area and took weeks and weeks to heal. I’ve had several since then and all have been relatively small outbreaks and all in the genital area but a different location. Sometimes the inner labia is affected, sometimes the outer labia and it changes sides at will. This OB after my first 18mnths ago, is quite severe and probably the most painful yet with a general feeling of illness and a swollen node again. But in fairness, Ive never been so stressed as I am now. I don’t think my OB’s are ever gonna follow the norm by the looks of it.
  7. I’m late to this but I’m also in the U.K. my nurse couldn’t have cared less and made me feel as though I was taking up her precious time. it’s so hard to get any meds, that I buy mine online. And it’s not cheap is it. I can’t afford it as a suppressive therapy but I like to have some on hand to head an outbreak off if I can.
  8. I’m late to this post but I always try and add my own experiences in case someone is looking for answers. I’ve had HSV2 for around 18 months. I’ve had several occurrences with varying degrees of severity. Sometimes I get swollen, painful lymph glands in my groin with the OB. Sometimes I don’t. But from my experience, it’s certainly not something that only happens with a primary outbreak. I have an ob now and my gland in my groin is very large and tender and this is about my 8th.
  9. So. My story is long and complex as is everyone’s here. But lately, I’m trying so hard to focus on self help rather than self pity and in doing so, I’ve come across studies of aspirin having a significant effect on herpetic recurrence. Apparently, people who take a small dose of aspirin every day, have significantly less or no OB’s for the duration. I am not in any way in favour of people doing so without the advice of their GP because long term aspirin use carries significant health risks of its own. Does anyone have any thoughts or personal experience?
  10. Thank you for your reply. I cannot face the humiliation of visiting my GP again. I had a terrible experience both times that I went there for help. ( I am currently in the muddle of a house move so I will change doctors very soon and try again) and it would be terribly difficult but not impossible for me to visit a clinic ( I am a full time carer and It is difficult to find the free time that coincides with clinic and waiting times) so I’d rather not unless I absolutely must. The itching has completely subsided and has given way to the pain of an open ulcer/ulcers. It would seem that extreme itching may well be my prodrome. I suppose it’s still relatively early days for me and I’m still trying to learn about my H. could I ask you one question? Do you believe OB’s can be triggered by stress? many thanks for your help.
  11. So, I was diagnosed with GHSV in August ‘18. Second outbreak 5months later was the worst ( probably because I had a severe illness), and have had sporadic but comparatively milder outbreaks since then. fast forward to now, and I am under incredible stress and pressure at the moment. I have several big problems not least being a single mother and in the middle of a house move. I have Unsurprisingly developed a really big OB very similar to my second. Very uncomfortable and sore and I’m feeling a bit run down and very tired but MY GOD! What is this itching on and near the OB?? It’s driving me seriously nuts and I never had itching like this before. It’s intense and constant. Can somebody please tell me this doesn’t mean the OB is infected. I’ve been keeping it very clean and treating with antiseptic. Is this normal or what? I can’t take it! thanks in advance x
  12. Thank you for replying. I’m so low at the moment. I don’t know where to turn. Since my first post about having only small outbreaks, I’ve developed a big one that’s very painful and I think it’s making me feel like crap in general but I may be just overly sensitive. I am moving house at the moment along with some other problems that have probably brought it on but I’m pretty self aware. I honestly don’t know why I can’t get a grip on this and make progress with it. again, thanks for taking the time to talk. It means a lot.
  13. Yes. I get both too and have done only since HSV diagnosis.
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