[Please help. I had sex without disclosing]

On 6/24/2018 at 5:15 PM, Hopeful88 said:

Ive been seeing this guy for awhile and i thought we were just going to end up friends. Even if anything developed it would only ever be a casual thing. The other night i was drinking and one thing lead to another and we had sex. We used a condom and i take antivirals daily and have never had an outbreak, my dr. Even said, that i was juat exposed to it at some point in my life. And to make it worse we did it again in the morning, protected. Now i feel absolutely awful, ive been having panic attacks and cant eat or sleep. I know the risk was really low but i want to tell him to come clean i juat need a way to do it that wont result in him losing his mind and i can still look at myself in the mirror. He never brought up the std talk either and i was wondering if anyone wpuld be willing to help me come up with a plan to tell him next time i see him. I feel really terrible enough so if you think im a monster please keep it to yourself. I just really need some help and support to do the right thing.

Thank you.

How did it all go @Hopeful88 kinda in a similar situation

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On 10/10/2018 at 12:15 PM, Jenn88 said:

@Isthislife kinda almost happened yesterday. I need to either tell

him or we stay friends your right. Are you planning on telling you guy? 

Hey @Jenn88  im breaking things off i cant tell him and i dont think ive transmitted in all honesty so im going to leave things alone and make sure i dont get myself in this position again its been a lesson its gonna be really hard and im gonna feel terrible but thats what ive decided to do i know not everyone here will agree with me but i have thought about it long and hard and feel its the way to go at this stage. how are things with you and your guy? 

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7 hours ago, Jenn88 said:

@Isthislife we started off as friends then became friends with benefits and put friendship grew. I eventually wanted more and he didn’t so I dared someone else that guy didn’t work out my friend gotad that I lied and now we are just trying to b friends again. But I am xompletely

kn love with him 

@Jenn88f you don't want to get yourself into a terrible situation like i have then maybe just stay friends but i personally know this is gonna be very hard and sometimes things just happen so im also gonna tell you to be careful because its so eaay to get caught up in the moment especially when that attraction and intimacy is already there whatever you do is gonna hurt so i guess just go with whatever feels right in your heart also easier said than done 

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6 hours ago, Jenn88 said:

He is literally my best friend I’m not ready to lose that do I choose to not tell but I won’t sleep with him either. I can’t do that knowing what I know 

Hey @Jenn88 What is the situation with you guys? Are you in a relationship? If so how long have you been together? 

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@Jenn88 oh wow i know exactly how are you feeling its so horrible i wish i was this open person with no fear of judgment and i could just come out with it but clearly i am not and also it doesnt help that i have already put him at risk so on top of everything else im just a selfish person its such a horrible feeling knowing any day now i just have to break it off with him amd i know thats also gonna hurt him so its a catch 22 i feel your pain 

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@Amando thanks so much for your response, hes abit of  a lad so i think i already know what his response would be if im being honest and then im scared of it becoming public knowledge because he is quite well known i think this is just a lose lose situation for me and its very depressing i dont even know how to go about dumping him its all just too much life is unfair 

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Nice will do

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Hi everyone 

Before i begin I'll just say you're harsh words are welcome 

I've been seeing a new guy and have not disclosed, i have had hsv 2 for about 4 years now

 We just had this instant connection, the first time we had sex we didn't use a condom i was symptom free but felt horrible and guilty afterwards, i was on edge waiting for a call from him but he hasnt shown any symptoms that was in June i tried to stay away from him because i just cannot disclose this i just can't im not there yet. Anyway my plan to stay away ftom him failed and we have had sex a few more times but with condoms and i have recently started on acyclovir 400mg twice a day but i know what im doing is wrong i think my only option at this stage is to break up with him as we are now in  relationship disclosure isnt an option for me right now and he wants to stop using condoms i know the risks are quite low but still i feel horrible about it i guess im a selfish person. Bring on the heartbreak i suppose, has anyone been in this situation its killing me inside hsv sucks I've had enough