I feel your pain. I’ve been married for 21 years, very happily and we have a great sex life. I was recently diagnosed with ghsv1 after an initial outbreak about a month ago. My husband also tested positive for hsv1 and never knew he had it and based on his numbers, he’s had it for a while. We both don’t understand how ive never contracted it before now. I’m having a very hard time resuming sex because I feel so dirty and he feels just terrible about it. I’m hoping with time, it will be easier. Good luck to you, I can’t imagibe having to date while going through this. It’s harf enough going through it happily married.