[Test Results]

I keep reading about the topic all the time. I was looking at my test results from Oct and realized that my test was a blood test don ed for HSV igM. I have heard that igM test results are not reliable. Is that true? 

Should I go back and get another test done for igG?

[Question about asymptomatic herpes?]

@100918 Thank you for the response. So does it mean that there is a possibility that your partner who is negative today can be tested positive in the future?

[Anyone willing to talk on the chat feature here]

Hi I havent had this virus since 20s but I can understand what you must be going through. Feel free to write.

[Settling (settled) for a spouse]

@VA2121 please dont feel bvb depressed. I think all of us are going through the same situation with this disease. Birds is right, you may have chosen your wife because of this disease but if your life is good you have lovely kids then work on developing love for her. If she loves you its not going to be fair for her if you leave now. Also I am 38, I don't know about you but I feel that at my age I am not sure if I will fall in love. If I find a partner the live might develop gradually. That can happen with you as well. You might need to work on it.

[Question about asymptomatic herpes?]

So if anybody is asymptomatic does it mean that their test will come negative? If the test is negative does it mean that the person does not have H?

[Feels like its all over... too depressed.]

@Sumshine I wish there was. I recently met a guy I got a marriage proposal. He demanded honesty and transparency so I told him about my H. He appreciated my honesty but refused to go ahead with the proposal because he wanted to be intimate with his new wife without being infected. 

I have been very depressed in the last few months. I know its next to impossible to find a guy who would be ok with no intimacy.

[Settling (settled) for a spouse]

@VA2121 I don't know if being in such a relationship is right or wrong but I also have the same thought in my head that I don't want to pass this to anybody. 

[Friends' Reactions Left Me Hopeless]

@Sumshine Having such a supportive partner is really great.

[Feels like its all over... too depressed.]

Hi @Sumshine thank you for the suggestion, but I dont know any such site. I don't think people talk about these things in that country.

[Friends' Reactions Left Me Hopeless]

On 8/14/2020 at 7:55 PM, Sumshine said:

So, I've had H since I was 23. I'm 61 now. I disclosed every time before sex and really didn't have too many problems at all with men not accepting it. I had one guy say he needed to think about it. He came back two weeks later and we dated for several months. I then met my late husband (he just passed away 4 months ago) who was head over heals in love with me and said he would be the last person I'd ever have to tell. He was correct. We almost made it 24 years married. He never got H from me. We had him checked every year. We mostly had oral sex (90 % of the time), but when we had intercorse, he chose to wear a condom (totally his choice)....then when i started anti viral meds, I had no more outbreaks at all and we stopped the condoms. I am now facing dating at some point. Not ready just yet as I'm still mourning. However, I am extremely fit as I weight train 5 days a week. I eat clean and take several supplements along with anti viral. From past experience, don't freak when you disclose. If you freak and cry and carry on, then they will definitely freak too. Just be frank and a bit matter of fact because it really is not a big deal. Remember to include in your disclosure that you are safer knowing you have this than all the other people who have no idea they have it! I've just been surfing some of the positive singles sites and trust me, there are millions out there with H and a lot of awesome people to choose from from lawyers, teachers, doctors. Ceo's etc normal people just like us

@Sumshine your story is very encouraging. I would like to know was it easy for your husband to accept you with H?whow did he not get it? Was he taking some meds as well?

[Feels like its all over... too depressed.]

I found out in october 2020 that I have HSV-2. My boyfriend broke up with me in October. Few days later I found some herpes ointment in his closet that he ordered 2 years ago. When confronted he said he was scared when I complained about bumbs and bought the meds online. He got tested in Aug-Sept 2020 but never told me about it. He said his tests were negative. I feel he broke up with me because of H. 

I am an Indian girl and marriage is important in our culture. I got back into the marriage circle and met a guy. When I told him about my H he appreciated my honesty but refused to have a relationship. Thats when it dawned on to me the 1st time how serious it is to have H. 

I have started feeling depressed and I have cried non-stop since. I have also felt suicidal because its not going to be easy or even possible for me to find a husband. I cannot reveal it to my parents and the feeling of being alone and lonely forever has been creeping into me. I dont have kids but I do want to have them. I have lost all positivity and feel scared all the time. I dont know what to do.

[Hi from India looking for a ray of hope]

Hi

I understand where you are coming from. I am an Indian as well and I am struggling through the same thing. I dont knw how to tell my parents that I can't get married with this issue.