whatsallthehubbub

Ok, so recently I had a outbreak of oral hsv1, with my new found knowledge..i decided to treat it as genital herpes and abstain from.. kissing.. (not sure if jane has it or not). ok..far more brutal than not having sex I have to say.. I can feel close and connected with Jane without sex but damn.. no kissing? ow.. just ow.. how the hell is this any better than genital herpes?? its not.. just has a better name of cold sore, and lacks the social stigma. (im sure this isn't a unique epiphany ). Also, since I signed on to this forum ive had one hsv2 outbreak.. took Valtrex.. 2 days didn't even get to blisters.. this stuff is awesome!! it dawned on me that genital herpes (along with all other herpes) is treatable.. WHY ISNT THIS MORE OF A FOCUS? sure its forever but you can treat it and its gone faster than a common cold. I deal with shame now.. the shame of making herpes way more than it needed to be... shame of the denial of the lies of the emotional roller coaster I let having herpes put me on. ok .. I have herpes.. whats all the hub ...bub?? just saying.

No sex for a year??.. omg!. Marry that guy.. seriously. . Just do it. He is a SAINT! Lol :)

Sounds like a good idea. At least some good will come out of your experience. Its got to feel good to know at least one person.. shared in your hurting.. hug them first chance you get. :)

\O/.. awesome for you confused!! Good luck in the future!

I hope ot works for you. :) having made this same mistake myself.. i can tell you that if he can get past it.. you will know more love than you can imagine. When you do it all wrong.. and give them every reason to leave.. and they stay... there is no doubts how they feel about you. .. :)

Im not the zen master most of you appear to be. Ill call it a character flaw and move on. I count not killing the one that purposely gave me herpes as one of my greater moments in life. Im just saying.. i completely understand wanting some semblance of justice,or revenge. I decided to be a good little victim because im a man.. and momma raised me better than to shoot women.. really all it came down to.

If i had thought of this back then.. i believe i would have done it. Im not saying it wouldnt be legal trouble.. nor am i suggesting you do it. But then im not really into taking the moral high ground when i have to eat a plate of shit to stand on it. Im not entirely sure why it is we are supposed to suck it up and be the better person.. i guess you have to ask yourself if doing this is going to make you feel better.. and if the consequences are worth what you gain. Maybe its about time for consequences (real ones) for non disclosure.. . Two things: legally.. im fairly sure thats not a fight he wants.. its one he will lose.. ::: THIS PART IS IMPORTANT: HIS retaliation may be extreme.. from physically beating you to putting a bullet in your head. Think about how emotional herpes has made you... and ask yourself how unstable he might become if everyone knew he had it...

For the record, this behavior (surprisingly) was by a woman with a graduate degree in the mental health field. Herpes is more emotional than it is physical or rational. Just because she may have understood her behavior,doesnt mean she was emotionally able to deal with it... The emotional aspect of herpes is still difficult for me to get a handle on. And ive had it for a very long time... one rational level i know herpes physically is a joke compared to the hype and google pics.. emotionally i can get depressed during a outbreak...and i have a loving woman by my side.. makes zero sense. From my perspective.. its the emotional aspect of herpes that causes the most damage.. which is why this site and its positive aspect is so important.

My opinion is: if it reduces transmission of any std by even a fraction of a percent its worth using clean with casual sex.. h+ with a h- partner (unless the h- partner says no ). I cant see any case where wearing a condom is a bad idea. As it relates to herpes and its transmission.. id go with the lowest number... with the understanding of how they generate those percentages.

I gotta say herry... if i ever have to get a outing letter of any kind.. i would want you to write it.. sure whatever news you have would be shit.. but i would marvel at the epicness of such a well written letter. Seriously you just made the most horrible day in the history of man kind sound liketthe adventures of huck finn.. i salute you sir.. 07 well played.... well played. :)

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Lol Victoria. . Seems we have different definitions for the word "need". You need air,food water, shelter without these things you die.. lock a guy in a room for a month give him the choice of those things and sex, you will see what he "needs". :) and i am aware of how much tension and stress can be relieved from sex. Lmao!

First, no man needs sex.. its a dumb manipulating thing to say and even dumber for you to believe. Sounds like you dont want to have to deal with having herpes as well as your current condition, which is understandable....if you want to be with this guy you have to accept that you may contract herpes, the risk is very low but never zero. If you cant accept that,then do both of you a favor and part ways.. as far as tricking him.... if he didnt disclose his condition before sex.. id say the trickery is on him and not you. Herpes can be hard to deal with both physically and emotionally and it sounds like you have issues of your own with your condition.....

I read the title and my mind flashed to a rocky scene,the one with hulk hogan ..'To all my love slaves out there, thunderlips is here... in the flesh baby!" " the ultimate male vs the ultimate meatball" lol sorry couldnt resist. But nice prayer.

Re - read your post herry. Looked up just in time to see the point flying over my head,it was hiding behind a metaphor. .. my apologies.