Natty

I just wanted to offer some hope. I've had HSV2 for about 10 years and HSV1 most of my life. I've disclosed to 8 relationships of all varying levels, and only 1 did not accept all of me (and that was the most recent). I also honestly feel it was because I disclosed too late in the relationship. There is a balance and way to disclose, and I've used all of H opportunity resources to learn how. The hardest part is just doing it and at the right time, not too soon and not too late. I know it's easy to say, and I don't know if this is any consolation, but if you are great person and match for someone, they will accept you. Dig through the "no" to learn it was just not a good fit, and it's better to find out before you are intimate and sharing a life with someone rather than later. I really did buy into this an opportunity to screen out the people we should be saying no to.

Congrats!!! Great news :)

Yes. I had no idea he was that drunk though or I wouldn't have had sex with him. We have since talked quite a bit. He hasn't had any other sexual activities since his last check up, and he is going to see and make sure he is ok. I feel based on how long I have known him and our friendship level that he is jawing sincere. Thank you all so much for helping me through this. And I of course wanted to have sex, so it's not like it wasn't wanted. In the future all talks need to happen before that tension is there for sure! Thank goodness out friendship isn't ruined. And thank you all again for your wonderful support!

During a night out, a good male friend of mine and I were heavy flirting. I have HSV2 so I didn't bring him to my room and ended the night early. He showed up at my door and came in and began putting the moves on me. I stopped him and told him I needed to talk to him if we were going to have sex. I told him I have herpes, and he asked a couple questions about my history which I answered. He them told me he didn't care about herpes and that he really like me and wanted to be with me. We ended up having sex several times that night. He was very interested in seeing me again after. I then heard from a mutual friend that he didn't remember any conversations he had with that person, and got worried he didn't remember ours. After talking with him, I found out he doesn't remember us talking at all. I retold him, but it has put a lot of pressure on our friendship. I feel so guilty and ashamed, but I told him before it got to even kissing. I guess I just need some validation

During a night out, a good male friend of mine and I were heavy flirting. I have HSV2 so I didn't bring him to my room and ended the night early. He showed up at my door and came in and began putting the moves on me. I stopped him and told him I needed to talk to him if we were going to have sex. I told him I have herpes, and he asked a couple questions about my history which I answered. He them told me he didn't care about herpes and that he really like me and wanted to be with me. We ended up having sex several times that night. He was very interested in seeing me again after. I then heard from a mutual friend that he didn't remember any conversations he had with that person, and got worried he didn't remember ours. After talking with him, I found out he doesn't remember us talking at all. I retold him, but it has put a lot of pressure on our friendship. I feel so guilty and ashamed, but I told him before it got to even kissing. I guess I just need some validation