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@FLNewH, I'm sort of in the same boat, but in my case I've never had any symptoms, so I didn't know I had it until a routine STD testing that my OBGYN suggests everyone gets. This was the first time I agreed to it and was in total shock when she told me the results. I too was married a long time, but was no angel before I was married. I've been in a relationship for over a year now and it's possible he passed it on to me as he had one risky behavior after his divorce and some short term and long term relationships. As my Dr said, he most likely has it too since we've been together over a year, but it doesn't matter who gave it to who and we will never know. She also said men usually don't want to get tested even when they know they might be at risk. But when I told him, he did go to be tested. We are waiting for his results. I did lots of my own research on the subject and since my number is low, there's a chance I have a false positive result, so I'm going for the blot test to confirm. I was a little annoyed by Dr didn't tell me that was a possibility, but I hear Drs. are not all up on specifics like that. Needless to say, I'm very upset.

Thanks for all your help. Enjoy the weekend,

@dancer just curious why you said results indicate that it is not very recent when she said her score was 8? All the Drs. told me that the number doesn't indicate how long you've had it and there's no way of telling.

Yes, I too read about Florida. I was married for over 30 years and never had a problem of any kind. Of course when I was younger I did have several relationships, so anything's a possibility. After my husband passed away I 've been in a relationship with only 1 man for over a year. He had been married for 30 years and was a virgin at his marriage. After his divorce he was in a long term relationship and then 4 short ones, so it's possible that he has the virus too. He also has no signs. But he did get tested after I got my results and we're waiting for his results. If he has a low number, we're going to another state to get the blot test, as ours doesn't allow it. Westover will arrange it for us. My OBGYN said, we've been together for over a year and he is sure to have it too. She also said men never want to get tested, but that wasn't the case when I told him. I asked him to get tested and he did. My OBGYN also said if he's positive too, we will never know who gave it to whom or if we gave it to each other; maybe we both had it before we met- IF indeed we are positive. She also said if I've never had a break out, chances are I never will. Westover said I need more testing and I agree. They liked our decision to wait for his test, so we can go together if he also has a low score- sort of a bonding thing. He's been very supportive- surprised when I told him, but said it makes no difference to him. He loves me and is staying. That's what I worry about most. Also, if I have it and he doesn't I worry about putting him at risk. He said we'll take precautions and he's OK with it. I fear the sex won't be the same; especially the oral sex. Waiting is the worst part of all this, especially when I'm still trying to get over this shock. I've had a rough few years and have been under a lot of stress- losing my husband a few years ago, breast cancer in January of this year and now this. Don't know how much more I can take. I'd like to find a counselor who specializes in this, but Westover said it's unlikely that I will. So far I've found no one, but still making calls.

PS: I'm waiting for my boyfriends test results. I Don't know where we'll go if he's negative. But as my Dr said, it's unlikely that he'll be negative because we've been together over a year. If he's positive we'll never know who gave it to whom. Or maybe we both had it already. Either way as she said it really doesn't matter & we'll probably never know. Thsts the hardest- not knowing how you got it. Neither of us shows signs. Needless to say this came as a complete shock to me. I'm 67 yrs old; never had symptoms; was found when I decided to be tested as part of my OBGYN 6 month exam as they always ask & this time I said yes. It's turned my world upside down. Just found out that when you have a low number score there's a chance of a false positive, so I'm considering being re-tested with another test. But waiting for his test results is torture. I know what you're going through. Hang in there.

Em, I woukd give him time & keep the lines of communication open. Answering any questions he has is helpful as well as providing him with the resources provided here as long as he has an open mind & is interested. My Dr said I could meet with her & bring my boyfriend & she would explain it to him too. It's important for him to be tested.

I have to go out of state for the western blot. What are the other tests I could ask for? Is the index number the 2.8 that my score was for type 2? If not, what is it listed as on my report? Thanks for your help.

Hi, I had a low # for my HSV 2 and after doing my own research found out that there's a 50% chance of it being a false positive. I contacted Westover Heights and they agreed that I need more testing to confirm. They suggested the Western Blot, but my state does not allow blood to be mailed out of state for testing and they can't mail the kit to me. They suggested I go to a neighboring state for the test and they will help me set it up. I've heard from others on different sites that this is not as easy as it sounds because you need to find a lab willing to do it. WH said they will work with Quest and there should be no problem. Has anyone had a low score on the blood tests and gone for the Western Blot to confirm diagnosis? How did it work for you as far as the procedure goes- easy or not? My partner and I discussed this and he has gone for testing too. We decided that we would wait to see his results. If he gets a low score too, we will both go for the Blot. Neither one of us has any symptoms. Mine was found in a reoutine testing for STD's because I never had these tests before and my OBGYN recommended it. All other tests were negative, but I do have HSV 1. His Dr really didn't think it was necessary for him to be tested. My Dr just said at some point in my life I was exposed to the herpes virus and I can pass it on. She said nothing about my low score and a Blot test for confirmation. I hear most Drs don't know that the low score can mean 50% chance of false positive. I plan on calling her to let her know what I've found out. I do realize that while there's a 50% chance of a false positive there is also a 50% chance of false negative. Maybe I do have the virus. One way or another, I'd like to know for sure. Any info is greatly appreciated.