Hello, I am new and first time posting, after scanning for about a month. I had some in depth questions that I was hoping Adrial could answer. I apologize for the granluar level questions, but that means that 9 months of relentless research, has turned up no answers for me. Most of my info, I was able to obtain by reading case studies and trials. I also apologize for how personal, I really have no modesty when it cones to medical stuff, so I'm not bothered by it, but others may so I apologize for that up front.
1. my understanding is that we abstain from sexual activity during signs and symptoms. I also am aware that, shedding isn't happening consistently and it has been studied and revealed, that it seems on average, people have more frequent bouts of shedding for a short period (hrs) in a day vs days. So are we to abstain if we have any sensation that day period or some time after the sensation?
2. Some of us were greatly effected by post herpetic neuralgia and have had constant paresthesia daily since contracting herpes. How do we tell the difference between nerve irritation as described (fake prodrome) above or if it is it legit prodrome and we are contagious?
3. Most information I'm finding, always seems to have the assumption that people will continue experiencing obs in the same location every time and that's where you should predict your recurrences would be and viral shedding. The only consistent place I've had a sore, is internally on the third day of my cycle. Every recurrence I have had, bumps popped up in new and different locations. Does this mean I will have shedding all over the place? I have had one bump on each inner labia one time each months ago; however, if I do ever feel a crawly sensation on my genitals, I get them there. So I would assume, that is where I'm shedding, when I get that sensation?
4. The vast majority of my crawling, is on the buttock and back of thighs. Should i take this as paresthesia, from irritation of my nerves or as prodrome? What does this mean for me spooning? Do I have to assume that I am contagious on back of thighs and buttock during spooning?
5. Why am I always having breakouts in new locations?
6. Are the tampons or the my cycle flow causing my internal sores? Does this mean that is going to happen to me during sex, because the friction of the tampons may be causing the sore?
7. I noticed that member profile pictures are public and while I understand having the information in the posts public, I know I am not comfortable w having a pic of me public. The type of field I am, peers bosses and future employers will no doubt find me, it is the nature of our field. W that said, if someone were to take say a picture of me from fb or where ever and I happened to upload that picture on this site, said nosy person good do a Google image search on me and POW! They know I have herpes! While I love the concept behind having a face to the posts, as iit creates a sense of community, support, openness and the removal of shame and stigmatization, it being public poses the risk of being found out by others possibly. I would like to have my picture up, for all the reasons posted, but only visible to those w IN the community. Have you considered modifying the forum so posts are public, but profile pictures only visible to members?
I apologize for the lengthy post. I would like to say thank you for being such a fearless and courageous person, to create something like this for people. It is very much appreciated, I'm sure you know. Thanks!