Carlover

Thanks. I was accepting of it or so I thought. I go back and forth some days on the virus and am continuing to do research. It just seems like every site I read has a different statistic for contracting the disease. My stress levels vary and at this point in time they are higher. I've revently started a new job and am worried how I am going to pay bills after I had to take a medical leave and was not able to start the new job with the 35 hours I thought I was going to recieve.

And yes your right it will at some point. But till then it just adds to my anixiety and depression sleepless nights lately. I take xanax if needed and some other meds that help to calm me. But there not miracle workers. I'm not saying this guy will but I've been rejected by two others. I guess it just seems like why wait out to see where things go and have the guy make up his mind on the status of us when I can tell him one little thing and more than likely he will not like it. I am trying to think positive. As i know he researches everything. But i have not slept with a guy yet since the guy I contracted it from. So i do not have any success rates on not giving the virus. I guess I just feel like if I am on a gram on valtrex. And use a condom how the hell will the virus survive is all. Thank you

Did I say that? No. I just don't know what to do anymore. Why stay with this one guy if I'm falling for him and he has no idea wha

I'm glad that's so easy for you to say. It's. It for me. I swear sometimes when you add my anxiety a d depression I almost get back to the point of having pseuosidal thoughts. Not attempts but just wishing I wasn't here on this earth. How do you explain to a loved one myother for example when. I can no longer seem to get a bf and keep one. Since she has no clue about my medical condition. I swear im going to just stop telling. Insist we use condoms and be done with disclosing. I'm on supressive therapy a gram a day.

But seeing as it doesn't look like this gs will ever go that far. And if they do I feel like he will leave me. I'm trying to date or have sex with other guys. I'm a women I have needs as well. No I'm not a slut. But I've been turned down. Once or twice now surprisingly. It makes me want to go back in time and change things. I also feel like if I never find someone to move on with because of it that I'm just going to become a nun of sorts. Oenthat I have to go back to the abusive guy I was with who gave me the herpes to begin with.

Your not the only one. Apparently having herpes and disclosing for casual sex doesn't work out. I feel like you as well. I feel as though I'm never going to have sex again since I contracted it. Why do americans not understand it. I feel as though I need to just go around lying.

I have not. I look at it this way if the farthest we've gotten is making out and were not in an official relationship why should I ask of yet.

I'm still seeing the guy. We're not exclusive. We've been seeing eachother for almost a month now three weeks. Things seem to be doing well. But who knows there is the possibility of him moving to Florida. He stated he doesn't want to become exclusive and break things off..I'm not sure why long distance wouldn't work but its regardless. I think he's scared and nervous as well. My therapist pointed that out. We both have underlying fears that need to be talked about. Yet at the same time were building a relationship without realizing it. I've read some of the stuff. I just feel like the statistics are all the same. Like I need to study for a test.

I had another date with him and all we took things that much slower. Since we have been dating if thats what I call it were not exclusive. I want to ask him not see other people and just see eachother. Do I need to disclose the herpes now or wait? I'm not trying to rush it. I am just not used to waiting forever to be in a relationship. Also with the connection we have it feels like we have been talking for months not just days.

Thank you. Im not planning on taking things fast with this guy. I just want to take it slow get to know each other before intercourse is even introduced. I've read the risk factors there extremely low. I'm also on a gram.of valtrex. I'm glad your not judging me. But I guess I just wanted to give him oral. I might be wierd but I enjoy it. Most of the time. But yes the guy I'm.seeing we talk about everything with each other. I told him. We need to slow down. I kind of got caught up.in the moment. He was just kind of hard. And we were cuddling together and well one thing led to another. But yes I want to get to know him. He could be a true keeper. I.will read the links.

I recently found out I contracted genital herpes. I almost have who I received it from nailed down. I've just recently started seeing a guy that I met online. He's a real gentleman willing to take things slow so on and so forth. I've given him head once. He's not looking to jump into bed with me. My question he's a very preppy guy you could say. My nerves are through the roof as I have not told him yet. We have only had one date. I found that as long as you use condoms 100% of the time along with me being on surpressive therapy using valtrex that the chance of him contracting is extremely low. I really want to be honest. He said communication is key from the start. I feel as though I've already lied to him. Granted he hasn't asked. When do I tell.him and how?

This is just the answer I was looking for. I too have a preference of shaving. Otherwise it's wayy too itchy. Thanks for answer.

I too have recently found out I contracted the disease. I believe it has come from my current partner. He recently told me well how do you know it came from me. Since then he has refused to have sex with me. Due to his dr saying that since he has never has symptoms that the likelihood of him having it is slim to none. Yet hes the guy who is a boneafied man whore.

This is good news. Also if your tender using a tampon. Try menstrual cups. I have been taking my birth control straight through since July. Although I am still constantly spotting. For the last month or so. I don't want to stop taking the pill as I am afraid I will have a huge outbreak after my first. I am on 1gram at the moment. As the 500mg did not work for me.