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Well.idk if the other will even get that far. He's over bearing. Obviously not the virgin. And thanks for all your help. I just wish I could find someone more my age. I still am. I just can't get past a second date.

That's helps me very much so. And yes it does. My .main question was i'm talking to a guy who says he gets it only orally and is embarrassed because of it no one will date him. The virgin has hsv 1. He gets cold sores. I informed him go get it checked out. So being on valtrex doesn't help with hsv 1? Of the mouth.

Thank you guys. And your right he has no point of reference. He does still talk to me on occasion. Does it upset me anymore no not at all. He said he wishes he was so fearful of the herpes. I'm talking to a couple new guys right now. Both are positive with HSV of some sort. My question for you guys as I do not understand the other side to this. can I catch HSV 1? And if so how easily? The two guys have given me mixed answers they have hsv but havent been on meds since there outbreak. I asked which they had and the one guy wasnt sure if he has both or not. This scares me as I'd like to only have the one at the moment. Or at least understand it.

I'm currently 26. He's 25. Yes I'm Adhd. It's okay if you don't understand it. It's a lifestyle. The last guy I dated we had two dates. I refused to put out. I didn't disclose. I probably should have but after two dates I felt it wasn't the time. Was I right there? This guy was older wanted commitment but was kinky. I'm actually still seeing the guy from four months. We just got to third base. I have yet to disclose as were still not in a relationship and he's sees other girls on occasion. Therefore I see no reason to. And I've clearly stated no sex.

He's actually not a kid a year younger than me. And I thought since he was college educated he might have enough of a brain to understand. He also has cp mildly on his left side. Which I accepted him for. If he accepted the Adhd and depression and panic. The herpes is absolutely nothing. Living with Adhd with someone is like a huge thing.

I disclosed to a guy I had been talking to from a site since the summer time. We had been texting one night for what seemed like forever I felt comfortable I told him. This was December. It's now February. He's a virgin. Claims he wants to be friends. I finally asked him what going on. He seemed to be using excuses on meeting as friends or not. I gave him.percentages and such when I told him. Thought he respected me was okay with it. Fast forward to last night. We were texting he was complaining about woman. And his standards. I said what's wrong with me and don't I meet them. He stated you a nice girl. But I'm afraid of the herpes. I said okay so your rejecting me. He told me no not as friends..I said you clearly are I'm not good enough. I explained its a skin infection that there is a stigma over it you can't die. Getting into a car accident and dying is higher. Since then there is that wierd feeling. And things aren't the same. I'm feeling upset and disappointed again. I wish people wouldn't wait two-three months to make up there minds. I keep doing it like you all have suggested. But I still get upset and start crying. I'm an emotional person in general and take everything to heart. When will idiots in this world fall off and die?

Okay. So pretty much just brush it off. And thank you for the HSV2 info on a guy going down on me. Granted I havent had it happen. But I wantes to know. I haven't had any attention to that area since the guy I got it from. One other question BTW you two ladies are awesome and full of advice. I read somewhere you can't go tanning and have to be careful in the sun is that correct?

A quick question. I have had only one outbreak that I know of. I am unaware what an outbreak for me looks like. I had one internally not externally. Which made it painful to pee or anything really. So other than that I havent. I had tingling after I finished the treatment and went on to the 500mg a day. So I was put on 1gram of valtrex a day instead of the 500mg. I have yet to have an outbreak since then. Is it because im on a gram?

@Julie reading your success story gives me great hope that I too will have success with the right guy. Reading your story was like a fairy tale. I hope it all goes well for you. I am screening the guys I am talking to. My problem I guess I like to have physical attraction as well. As a connection. Does the fourth date really mean something? I have yet to disclose to the guy I've been seeing a month but I have suspicions its not going to work out. So instead since the guy I am seeing has not pushed anything. I have gone down on him a couple times voluntarily I might add. I will just see how things go.

I am so glad for you that you are having such success. Coming from a female I think your very lucky. I myself have not had very much success with disclosing. Good luck to you.

Awesome. Thanks for the good luck. I don't know about awesome sex in 2016 but I hope so. I'm taking all of the advice and reading your story gives me hope that I will have better luck in 2016.

I was not sure on oral herpes. Do I have to use a dental dam for a guy to go down on me? And is there a way to answer a guy when he hasnt met me yet if im 100% clean? Other than avoiding the question I have no idea. If the guy actually gets to know me i think it would be different. Can I lie and say no? I don't want to disclose to the whole world. But I understand a guys or person wanting to know.

Ouch both types must be even worse am I correct? Does that mean you have to give immediate disclosure? I have never heard of a mushroom based booster? I have used ziacam in the past. I just hate that its so expensive. I do nasal washes as well.

Okay thank you. I was just wondering. When I get sick its hard. I can't take a lot of vitamin c. It messes with my meds. And I have a red dye allergy. Along with I'm already on allergy pills and nasal spray. I can't take sudaped either.

Thank you guys. I'm just seeing the email now. That there were comments left. And your right on the friends that I have and not had a problem. I'm not willing to put that I have it in my dating profile. I've seen wayy to many people on there that I went to high school with that I do not needing the whole world knowing. Writing dating profiles are not the easiest thing for me. And I am working on myself. Does having the virus make us more susceptible to getting sick. Such as the common cold and what have you?

The big difference if I am correct is the price correct 2Legit2Quit? I know my Valtrex in NY is over $200 a month for a 30 day supply of 1 gram tablets. I am on medicaid luckily. So I only pay a $1 copay I believe. If I do not have good insurance at some point and have to I might have to change myself due to being on it for supressive. Being on supressive not only helps when I disclose which I am batting zero on sort of. But helps me sleep at night anxiety wise. I don't like the fear of not knowing when I might have an outbreak and having to get the medication. Everyone is different. I had an urgnent care dr who had HSV 1 tell me he only took it when he had an outbreak it was too expensive and too hard on the body. This medication can be very hard on the kideneys and liver. I am not sure what 2Legit2Quit opinion is on it. But when I called my dr I had shaved and had bumps down there I think they've healed I was unable to drive an hr to my office one way and not able to get a call back or a sooner appointment till the 7th of january for my primary but I was told that to just continue to take the medication like normal when having an outbreak and it will clear up is that correct?

Thanks 2Legit2Quit I've also disclosed to a couple other guys and they accepted it but more in a friendship way. A couple guys have been right off the bat. One came out and asked as he was looking for some fun. Which wouldn't have bothered me. I still havent disclosed to the guy Im seeing were not exclusive and are not spending New Years Eve together. And I have had guys who say in there profile point blank they want to start off as friends and go from there. Except friends to them is having sex as well. I did mention to the guy I'm seeing right now that I do no wish to rush into sex. In my past I hadn't to begin with. It was something that was earned a mutual part of the relationship. We took things slow. But at the same time I am a person who does have a higher sex drive I always have.:(. I hated it with my ex I was never happy all the time. And the sex sucked I later found out. I am learning the signs and do know what to look for as far as the abuse goes. Unfortunately it just makes things more difficult for me is all. I just feel like I miss out on a lot of guys when I tell them I am not up for having sex right away. And put it in my profile? Are you referring to my Herpes status? Like I said I am on a couple positive sites. Have you had any luck with them? I am considering a relationship from them and possibly some casual sex. Unless I buy a really good sex toy between here and now.

Are you taking the Valtrez daily? I was on Valtrex myself 2 grams a day one every twelve hours when I had my first outbreak. Is this what your referring to?

I've been infected with herpes since September or October. I realize this now the guy who I received it from turned out to be a level 3 rapist and had no idea or so he said that he had the virus. The relationship was abusive sexually from the start. I've grown up in a verbally abusive relationship living at home with my father and controlling. My past relationship of six years was toxic as well. Anyways long story short. I have now moved on from him. I have dated one guy since the guy who gave my herpes. I have disclosed a couple times via text message.(I was turned down) One guy even treated me as though I was a jewish person in hitlers time it made me feel like. I was crazy to think he would want to date me given my situation. My issue it seems that online dating all guy care about and want to talk about is sex. Any tips on how to get away from it or how to handle it when a guy brings up that he likes to be satisfied sexually without making things go all akward and such pretty much loosing contact with the guy? I recently made an account on a herpes dating site but you have to pay to message anyone and I can't afford that. Also there doesn't seem to be very many guys who are my age I'm 26 yrs old to date on any of the sites I have made profiles on. My limit is around low 30's. I'd like to move on in life and have a family sooner than later in life. It seems like I am now at a disadvantage. Yes I have read the articles I have issues with confidence. I also battle ADHD combined type, Anxiety, and depression. Myself I feel as though living with just that is a challenge. I have disclosed to one family member a cousin of mine no one closer. And recently a friend from high school. Along with a couple other friends I have met through my ADHD groups. Any ideas on how I can just move over and onward and continue to use these sites or what have you its a preferred way of contact for me. I have social anxiety as well by myself being in bars and such. I was told since my diagnosis that I've no longer considered myself the same person.

Supressive therapy is when you take 500mg to 1 gram of Valtrex a day in your case. The medication is supposed to help build up your system to help to ward off an outbreak. Valtrex is an anti-viral. This medication also cuts down on the risks of transmitting the virus to another person when having intercourse or giving oral if you had HSV on your mouth. There are a couple other medications also out there. Valtrex and its generic valacyclovir are taken once a day. I hope this helps.

I've looked in upstate NY and have come up with nothing. I have asked planned parenthood and they as well have not heard of anything.

And honestly I'm trying to date more than one guy at a time. It never seem to work out that way. For some reason. I'm add. My attention span is not always the greatest. At trying to multi task

I think I confused you. There are two different guys. The suspicious one isn't fresh out of a divorce. I've been dating him for a month. And the other guy who is divorced I'm not sure how long he's been divorced for.

We've been seeing eachother a month and I'm beginning to wonder if there might also be someone else he's seeing based off of how he's still acting. Such as he lives with his best friend d a d his best friends gf. He doesnt have me over unless there not home and does not let me stay the night. But wants me to next week when. His roomates aren't there. It's been over a month now. It's starting to get fishy. I've not given him head again. And I've still continued looking. I've disclosed once via text but this particular guy has figured out he's not at a point to support a relationship so we're going to stay friends. I've now am beginning to wonder when do I disclose in further relationships. Like for an example a guy I'm talking to right now said honestly is important to him and being upfront. He's divorced as of August. Do I come out and tell him now before a first date or date on. God this is so confusing and difficult.

How do.I distinguish an outbreak and pimples down there. I've never had an outbreak that I was able to see?