Sunshineandwhiskey

@stillmebutwiser. Thanks for your perspective. You're giving some good advice. It's all about expectations. Gives me something to think about and work on.

@2legit2quit. Men are funny. (Sorry guys). As i say: Off with their heads and on to the next. They'd be lucky to have us! Plus they fade for a million reasons. Sometimes nothing we did or what we are about.

@2legit2quit. You were right! I was obsessing about a disclosure that is t going to happen. I told him I wanted to take it slow and he's doing the slow fade away. So he's not for me and was only after one thing. I'll be scared to do the first one but I will for the right guy. I'm no longer going to obsess about it. Funny how things work out! Sometimes for the best thanks to you and the H. Hugs everyone

@2legit2quit Great Advice!

Maybe this weekend! I'm starting to doubt his sincerity! I'll let you all know!

Thanks. I'm sorry you're dealing with all that. Yes sex is getting close and yep I want that. I'll disclose and if that's not a go then so be it! Thanks for your time. Means a lot!

I'm fully prepared to use herpes as my wingman. And it's worked some! Met a great guy. You know the story. I've slowed it down quite a bit. Honestly, I would have slept with him after the second date before H. So four dates later, the physical is really heating up. So far just kissing but I know where this is going! Asked him about his intentions. Told him I'm not into hooking up etc. He says he's on board. Wants a relationship etc. So....this weekend is it! I'm going to tell him. Went over the info etc. It's weird I like havng sex and in the past would have just slept with him but now I'm looking for more. Damn it's hard. Really makes you work on yourself and what you want and not settling for less. Yes I'm dealing with this at 50! Better late then never! Need positive vibes. I'm so scared of being rejected and seriously considering becoming a nun

Try peeing in a shallow bath or pour water over yourself when you're on the toilet. I've seen suggested on Here to coat the area with vasiline. And drink a lot off water so the urine is t so consentrated.. I was afraid to drink anything though. Good luck and I hope you feel better soon.

Thanks! I have been! Being careful and don't want to aggregate anything down there! It's different but trying not to let it hold me back.

Hi there! I'm sorry you're feeling so much pain and guilt. I am in you gf shoes. just diagnosed 2 1/2 weeks ago. I was married for 29 years and The past two years have been spent having fun. I always asked people before about stds etc. and I always had clean blood tests. I finally decide that I'm done just having fun and I find a super nice guy. We fall into bed. Haha I never asked him about testing etc. when I got my diagnosis he revealed he had had cold sores for most of his life. I was really pissed. After a couple of days I decided 1. He didn't do it intentionally and 2. I am the only one responsible for my sexual health. 3. Even if I had known I would have still gone for it thinking my odds were low of contracting anything. I'm fifty and have been through a lot of crap in my life already so maybe my perspective is different. But you have to forgive yourself. You didn't hurt her on purpose. She needs time to figure it all out. You seem very concerned and that is awesome. I'm sorry you feel so bad. Both parties are responsible. It sucks I know. Seriously if she was very concerned she should have asked you to be tested. Not throwing this all back on her but it was partly her responbility too

Yes that does help before I go to bed! It's not horrible just annoying and wondering if it could be something else! Thanks for your reply. Much appreciated.

I'm three weeks into my first outbreak. Also had a bacterial infection. On valtrex and was treated for the infection. I'm still so itchy. Is this normal? Finished the antibiotics a week ago. Also on suppression therapy 500mg once a day

Thanks so much. The lab results said herpes positive. I'll get a copy from the Drs office. Thanks for taking the time to answer. Not quite healed up but definitely getting better. One day at a time

Well to make a long story kind of short. Started seeing a new guy. After having unprotected sex for two weeks I tested positive for herpes through a swab test. He went for a blood test and was positive for type one. My blood tests were negative and my swab wasn't type specific so I don't k ow which type I have. I suspect he gave it to me but I can't be sure. I want to protect him if I do have type 2. So. I'm finally starting to feel better and he seems willing to have sex. I'm on supressive therapy and plan on using condoms. How long should we wait?