Sunshineandwhiskey

Thanks so much!

Fuck so I guess I'll have to say something. Complete bullshit

Thanks! Hippyherpy! That's what I figure! Also he's a bug boy and can research it if he wanted tooo!

So starterd dating a guy and before we had sex I told him I have hsv1. I told him it was t type two and most people by our age have hsv1. I didn't tell him I have it genitally. We had sex a few days later and now I'm feeling guilty that maybe I should give him more stats and info. He did have three days to research it so..do I have another discussion with him???

@luna1088. I got ghsv1 from oral sex with a boyfriend last October. I had a culture done. Then 4 months later I did have a blood test because they didn't type the culture so I didn't know if it was 1 or 2. I take valtrex when I'm in a relationship. Good luck with the BV. It sucks.

I feel your pain. I too keep getting BV. I also haveGSV1. I hate using the medicine the ob/gyn gives me. This is going to sound weird but I purchased boric acid capsules from Amazon after doing some research. It helps with yeast and the BV. You insert them inside you. Seems like it helps. I haven't done the full course of treatment but it gets my ph down there back in balance after a couple of days. Unfortunately after I have sex it comes back. I probably just need to do it for two weeks as it says.

Good luck tonight!

Have a great getaway weekend planned. I'm leaving Thursday and today I have an outbreak! I told the new guy I have herpes 1. He didn't seem to care. We had unprotected sex multiple times on two occasions. The last being Friday. Messed around on Sunday but no penetration. Then Sunday afternoon bingo! Going to the doctor tomorrow to have her check as I'm not sure. Also think I have BV infection. Not for the discussion with him as to what's going on.

Thanks ! You're right. I am making this way more complicated! Great advice as always!

It would be better if she took the antivirals. Did you tell her about how you felt about condoms and that it would put your mind at ease if she took the antiviral drugs?

Good luck!

Hang in there. Try taking vitamins and exercise. It's good everything else is negative. I hope you

Not yet lol

I think it is perfectly alright to ask her to get on suppressive therapy. Seems like you both are communicating well. Plus I'm sure she would want to protect you. I say in the meantime use condoms too until you get your results. Just my humble opinion. Good luck

Here I am again freaking out! I did disclosure to the new guy. I just said simply I have the virus that causes cold sores. He just replied that he's never had one. We didn't have sex that time because he didn't have a condom. 1). My heroes has never been typed. Awaiting results now as it's been four months. I'm assuming I have type one because the last guy I dated had cold sores and told me after my first outbreak. If my results come back type 2 do I need to disclose all over again? 2). After the simple disclosure he never asked any questions. Is it my responsibility to now fill him in? 3). We know many of the same people and I don't want everyone knowing my business and frankly I'm afraid I'll pass it to him! Also I plan on taking valtrex if we do go farther. And of course he's mentioned how much he hates condoms. Am I taking advantage of his naivety? Ugh. Why is this so complicated! I so appreciate everyone on this site. You are my lifeline.

Well if he's selfish he's probably an ass anyway. I say just move on. I did the full blown disclosure with mixed results. Been dating someone awhile and I'm just so sick of the full blown thing. I just told him I carry the virus that causes cold sores. He seemed ok with it. He didn't have any condoms so we just messed around. I just put it out there while I asked if he had condoms. Kind of all in one sentence so we will see if he sticks around lol. If he's concerned he can research it and if he asks I tell him what I know. It gets tiring for sure.

Sweetheart. You'll be just fine. Just keep moving along.

I'm so sorry you're feeling terrible. Coming from a much older women, I can tell you there will be other men in your life worthy of your love and affection. You need to have patience and just do you! My advice is to run away and don't look back. He's so not good for you! He's lied on multiple occasions to you! Even when you've asked him point blank. You're putting your health at great risk. There is no telling hat else he might have that could really effect your health in a devastating way. You seem so sweet! Just remember. You need to be there for yourself first. He is not worthy of your concern. Take care of yourself. Be strong. Get out with your friends. I promise you'll be ok! It takes time Wishing you only the best! Hugs!

Thanks! You're right!

Thanks guys for your kind words. He obviously wasn't that into me. So easy to get tested and if you haven't been tested at age 45, now would be a good time. He just wanted to get laid. Its wild to think he would rather just sleep with someone and not know. It's people like him who pass on the virus because it's easier to not know. On a positive note, went out last night and met a great guy. First date tonight lol

Well after I talked with Mr #4, shared the statistic sheet. He's not interested. I asked him to get tested with no response. So...I guess he wasn't that interested. I thought maybe this would be a fun summer romance. So instead I'm on a steady diet of vodka and cigarettes tonight. I know in my heart that someone who wont even get tested isn't a great person to be with. But still hurts

That is so inspiring. Thank you!

First one was an old FWB. I told him and he said he appreciated my honesty. We met a couple days later and talked a bit. My tests got messed up and I'm not 100% sure with type I have. I explained to him I strongly felt it was type 1. (Another story). He said his wife of 20 years had herpes and he never contracted it but was uncomfortable with penetration until I sorted things out. We messed around and had a great time! Second story: Another old FWB texted. I texted him back and told him my situation. He was cool with it if we used condoms. I decided I Just didn't want to see him and that was that Third story: Dated a guy for a month or so. He ghosted on me for awhile. But the next time I saw him we had a great time. I really wasn't ready to disclose yet as I have a lot of shit going on in my life. We made out for awhile and I asked him if he ever had a cold sore and he said yes. I told him I contracted herpes from oral sex. I was on valtrex and we should use condoms. He asked a few questions and he was cool with it. We made plans to see each other in a week at his place. After I thought about it I decoded he wasn't someone I wanted to be with thanks H wingman! He was disappointed. Fourth guy! This was a hard one because he was such a gentleman. We had great dates about six. So..I told him after we were making out. He said come into my house and... I told him we had been drinking and he needed to think about it. I was nervous because I wanted it to happen with him. I gave him the stats. Then the ghost move again. I gave him a little space. Finally I said I really want to see you again. My daughter was going out of town. If he didn't want to see me anymore I understood but I really wanted to make plans to get out and if he didn't want to that was fine. So he texted me the next day and said he was really freaked out about the H thing. He called me after work and I asked him when was the last time he was tested. NEVER! That he could recall. I told him to get tested because maybe he had it and didn't know. So I'm seeing him tomorrow to talk more about it. I've learned that I feel really empowered by telling the truth no matter what the outcome. Also that H is a great wingman. I will let you know how this one turns out. Sorry for the long post

One more questions. These are annual numbers right!? Thank you so much! Disclosure time again. Lol.

Can anyone please tell me where to find the spreadsheet for transmission rates or send me the link! Thank you!