Sandraa

So glad you shared this because I have been itching for almost one month straight @BlueBerry08 (argh!). When I was begun suppressive medication with 400mg of acyclovir twice a day, I had two months of bliss and then last month (with exams and the stress that comes with it) I got a serious outbreak and the itchiness hasn't gone since then. Like you, it becomes milder and milder but there is redness and sometimes one or two blisters. When the skin has healed, two days later, I begin to itch again. It has been like this for a month straight smh. One time I was riding my bicycle and my lady parts begun itching. I was literally bouncing on my seat (hahahah smh). I am thinking of going to see my doctor to discuss options of switching medication. Please let us know if you notice any improvements while on Valtrex @Sunset. Thanks.

Congratulations on your college degree, raise at work and completing your book @RegularGuy! Woop! Woop! I am also always anxious before and after shaving hahahah (so much that I am thinking about lazer hair removal). I wonder if that would help. Yes I hate we when herpes interferes with my sexuality (argh!). I am currently doing my end of semester exams (so obviously stress levels are over the roof) and I can feel my second outbreak coming (second this month imagine even when on suppressive acyclovir medication. My first outbreak this month was at the beginning of the exam period and came with my monthly period, the blisters did not hurt even when I pee'd but the itching during the first two days was out of this world. I was riding my biking and bouncing on my seat hahahah). I usually try to stay upbeat but my heart broke a little when I saw a blister this morning. This is the last week of exams so looking forward to the end of the week, my blisters healing and my trip to Portugal next week. May we always have find the strength to deal with the wave of negative emotions when they come over us.

Thanks @RegularGuy I have coffee with him on Tuesday. We'll see how that goes. <3

Sorry girl @annalove. Sending you hugs. It will get better <3

Yeah... @lifegoesonn. Thanks!

@Sandraa, it's funny reading this old post (almost two years old now) because I started disclosing the following month and had many positive disclosure experiences. Not that every single experience worked out, but most did. Hang in there! <3 @optimist @katdid

I understand what you are saying completely. We are much safer than 90% of the population ( my opinion) because we know what we have. My husband doesn't want herpies, but has never stressed over it either. He has never seemed to mind a condom, but he have oral more often than intercorse.....so, of course. He doesn't mind that at all lol. Just read this and it warmed my heart @Katidid. Life without oral isn't worth living hahahaha :D. Jokes aside, I am going to send all my prospective partners to this discussion (and many more on here) as part of the herpes education process. Thank you for sharing @optimist.

Agree 100% with @Dumfounded. HSV is very, very common. He may have HSV himself. His daughter may have HSV. It is likely the known risk combined with the location of the infection and related stigma have triggered this panicked response. Agree that if education does not ease his mind, you are better off walking away as this will be unhealthy for you. Considering the prevalence of genital herpes, particularly among adult women, combined with your antiviral use, you are not presenting a unique risk worthy of this type of response. However, some people are simply anxious about known risk and anxiety isn't always logical. Sucks for him and for you. I'm sorry you experienced this. Thank you @optimist <3. He really isn't worth it if education doesn't ease his mind. I feel so much better already!

You deserve to have sex with someone who doesn't fall into a panic afterwards because of HSV. You could educate him, but at the end of the day if this going to continue to be a big issue for him find someone who isn't scared of sex. Hopefully a little education and you walking away will teach him not to lose his shit over this with future partners. Thank you <3 @Dumfounded

Hey! Glad to be on this forum to learn, share and support each other in this herpes struggle. 6 months ago I had my first genital herpes outbreak. I am 24 years old slowly but surely accepting my condition and dealing with it accordingly. Fast forward. I met someone I like and told him I had the virus for genital herpes and currently on suppressive medication for two months now (I take 400mg acyclovir twice a day). I explained to him that taking this medication and having protected sex lowers his chance of being infected. I haven't had any outbreak since I begun taking the medication. I know the virus can be shed but shedding reduces because I am on medication. He seemed to understand but yesterday we had protected sex yesterday (the sex was great) but after he had a panic attack :(. It stressed me out so much that for a split second I was thinking about not disclosing my status to any potential partner again. Next day he texted me that the attack was triggered by him thinking about catching the infection and/ or passing it to his daughter. How can I explain to him that we can still be intimate and protect him? For example, 1. How does one know that they are shedding the virus? 2. Can he perform me oral sex on me? 3. Can he finger me and still be protected? 4. Can we cuddle while naked? 5. Can I spread him the virus if I have vaginal cuts from rough sex? 6. What is the risk of transmission from female to male? 7. Should my medication be changed to valacyclovir to lower the risk of transmission to him? Thanks :) Sandra