Issues with Suppressive Therapy

[LovelyB91]

Hello

I am a 32 yo female and I’ve had genital hsv for 13 years now I’m unsure if I have hsv1 or hsv2. Over the years I’ve had very few outbreaks but recently I started suppressive therapy with a 500mg Valtrex pill daily. Now it seems I’m having constant outbreaks. Has anyone every experienced this? It’s weird that the antiviral meds are causing outbreaks when before I didn’t have any. I started a new relationship with a great guy and wanted to ensure I did everything possible not to transmit it to him.

Also, I wanted to know if any of you have any positive success stories of long term relationships and the partner did not contract herpes from the infected partner

Thank you in advance for any responses

[AnnieO]

Sorry to hear the meds back-fired on you. I was married 22 years... but he also had it. Not a good example. Sorry. 

Ok, lets try this one. Prior to that, I had a three year relationship back in the late 80s and one daughter from that boyfriend that was ok with the situation. Well, that also wasn't a great example..LOL.. dang! I did have a 9 year stent of dating. some ok with the issue, others not so much. I sure hope someone else chimes in.  Now that i'm recently divorced, I'm starting to question any successful relationships, especially in my mid 50s. I just keep praying and keeping the faith. Best of luck. 

[mr_hopp]

Hey @LovelyB91,

I'm really sorry to hear that the suppressive therapy with Valtrex didn't go as expected. It must be so frustrating and disheartening, especially when you were trying to take extra precautions in your new relationship. You know, our bodies can be so unpredictable, and what works for one person might not work the same way for someone else. It might be worth reaching out to your healthcare provider to share your experience and explore other options (different dosage, or try different meds altogether such as Famvir or Acyclovir) that could work better for you.

As for success stories with long-term relationships and herpes, I totally get why you'd want to hear some positive experiences. It's like a glimmer of hope in sometimes challenging times. @AnnieO shared her journey, and even though her situation might not mirror yours, it reminds us that there are various paths people take with relationships and herpes. There are plenty of success stories that can be found in this thread: https://forums.herpesopportunity.com/?forumId=9 ... and keep in mind there are plenty more where those came from. 

I have a success story to share since my wife and I have been married for 6 years now (together 8y). We've had our stuff, as all long term relationships do (especially with a kid involved), but none of our "stuff" has had anything to do with herpes. Actually, disclosing herpes was what brought us more closely together and created more trust in our relationship. You can hear our story about the herpes talk and our relationship since on this interview: https://www.herpesopportunity.com/post/vice-interview-with-me-and-my-wife

Also, keep in mind that so many times people come to herpes support forums like these when they're going through the bad times, but then when they see success, they move on, so it can feel like a skewed storyline where you only see the bad reflected in support forums without them being balanced out by all the happy endings that are out there.

Sending you loads of virtual support and the best of luck in your journey!