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Dealing with herpes please help

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Two years I was diagnosed with herpes. At the time I was in an open relationship with someone I cared deeply about. After my diagnosis we stopped talking, after a while we started talking again and ended getting to a point where we were dating. Since then our relationship has been up and down with the highs being really high and lows being really low. After getting diagnosed I opened up to friends I grew up with and they all left me with no help because I was the problem. Before getting back together I planned a suicide but stopped when I realized that I would only be solving the problem for myself and not anyone else considering I was the one who was infected first I thought it was greedy and unfair and stopped. My relationship with my girlfriend has been all over the place because of the trust issues which I see as fair but all I have done is try to prove my loyalty.  I have removed myself from all situations that previously lead to the issues before, and have spent every minute I have had with her to prove my loyalty. I have asked them to go to therapy with me to help but they have always refused. I think of myself as a horrible human, waste of space, whore and pathetic for taking pills to help me get over it. I know that is wrong but it is sadly the truth. It only makes it harder when my girlfriend wants to end things because of this and calls me all those names I end in going into a downward spiral where I see no help and an end to a relationship I have always valued. I have never loved anyone this much but even more because I have lost everyone I care about because of my choices and she is the only person besides my immediate family that has stayed by me in any way. To be honest I believe there is no help or fix to this issue. With that being said I have been told about this site from my mother who cares about me and wants me to be better. These types of things are not what I enjoy but the abyss I am in is getting to dark and deep to climb out of. Please any help is appreciated. 

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@Gabe789 — Hearing your story really moved me. It's clear you're navigating through incredibly tough times, and your honesty here is both brave and touching. I remember when I first shared my diagnosis. The first person I shared it with was my mom. She passed away a month ago, but that mother's love never goes away! When I disclosed to her, I cried in her lap for hours in her work parking lot. That moment of vulnerability and the unconditional love she showed me reminded me of the strength and support we sometimes forget we have.

This love from those who care deeply for you is a powerful beacon during these dark times you find yourself in. It's a reflection of the love you can learn to rebuild within yourself. Holding onto this can be a key step in moving forward, finding peace, and healing. You're not alone, and it's okay to seek help and lean on those who offer their support. Your journey isn't defined by a single aspect of your life ... in fact, we grow and evolve most in the darkest times. (My poet friend said it so eloquently: "The darker the dark room, the more colorful and vibrant the photos.")

With time, support and a positive perspective, brighter days are ahead. One day, you will look back at this journey and be proud that you made it. 

This content is for informational purposes only. This information does not constitute medical advice or diagnosis. I'm not a medical professional, so please take this as friendly peer support. 

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