Bad day bad day. Need inspiration fast before I lose it.

[thisisgoingtobeokay (previ]

Thank you Noel. :)

[Sabrinalexandra]

Defeated: just like everyone else, I stayed in a relationship with the guy who gave the virus to me way too long because I didn't think anyone else would accept me. I am now a year out of that relationship and have had 3 positive disclosures to guys about my condition, however, after getting to know them more I ended things on my own terms. You will realize this is not the end of living or loving.

 

Not everyone is going to understand, in fact I just got dumped Friday night after having the herpes discussion the previous night. I realized that the way you view the virus is how it will come across to another person. I was fortunate enough to have 3 guys be able to look past it because they liked me for me and not a skin condition around my vagina. They accepted it in spite of the fact that I clearly hadn't. This past Friday, after 5 years I had a wake up call, herpes hasn't defined me, but when I disclosed it I let it define me, I treated it like a dirty secret and a major embarrassment, so how exactly was I to expect someone else to think it wasn't a big deal when I just treated it like one?! Totally an eye opening experience. Never again will I treat it in this manner! I also realized that this guy had much bigger issues and if this was going to cause him too much anxiety, how would he deal with something that really mattered? He did me a favor, which I realize now, it still smarts a bit, but now I can get on to meeting the right guy.

 

Definitely read the facts sheets they are so enlightening! And they will make you feel better!! As time goes on, you will hurt less and less and realize you are still you. AND be picky, don't settle!! You deserve the best!