So now what?

[GreenEyes87]

I recently posted a disclosure story and it was ultimately a success despite the scary start. Now I'm wondering how to shake the paranoia. As much as I'm enjoying my first H+ H- relationship (the statuses mainly making me happy I'm not limited to the H+ community) I can't shake that little bit of nervousness and I find myself a bit distracted during sex. I know he has assumed the risk by choice at this point but I still get a little shaken up. How the hell do I relax?! Lol

[WCSDancer2010]

Patience my friend! You are still learning to trust yourself in understanding when you may be having an OB, so this will take a little while to work itself through.

 

Hows about finding ways other than sex to be intimate ... learning more about ways to delight each other without worrying about the Big O (though it may still happen... there are MANY erogenous zones to be explored!) That is one of the "gifts" of Herpes ... when we have OB's or are just unsure of things, we have the perfect excuse to explore toys, manual play, oral play, food play, etc etc etc.

 

So start exploring and get yer freak on chica!

 

http://herpeslife.com/keeping-your-partner-herpes-free-can-be-super-sexy/

 

(((HUGS)))