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Protecting your H- partner with a barrier...

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I've been meaning to start this discussion for the last few days. Then I read NeverDanced's "stupid question" and decided now would be a good time.


In the 28 years that I have been h+, I have taken a lot of pride in that I have never passed anything along to any of my h- partners. I attribute this to many things:


1. Paying attention to what my body is telling me - At the first indication of an OB, I begin a 7 day regiment of anti viral and upon completion, wait another 7 days before getting back in the game.


2. Wearing a condom - Although I have been in relationships where my h- partner trusted me to go without one, that I would do everything I could do to protect her, understanding that I could not make guarantees.


3. Grooming - While I agree that shaving is just better, I've maintained a short, thick growth over the years. My thinking here is that hair acts as a barrier, covering an area that the condom can't.


So before I start having sex "through the fly", I'd rather try this approach.


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I think #3 is one of the reasons H *seems* to be in the increase (I'd want to see any stats before I make claims on this one). While I actually love it when a guy is either clipped short or shaved, (and a little TMI ... I've never had a lot down there so it doesn't matter if I shave or not), there definitely is at least a small benefit to having that little hairy barrier between you ... AND the shaving often causes irritation that would allow the virus to gain entry ... thus exacerbating the situation :(

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