Practicing My Talk

[forgivenessandpeace]

I'm so fortunate in so many ways: some people have crippling diseases like MS or Lou Geurig's Disease. Some people have breast cancer and, if they do survive, they do it with one or no breasts rather than the 2 beautiful breasts they are born with.

 

I'm so lucky, I just have this annoying skin infection. Fortunately I don't have to worry about infecting my parents or my children or my very close friends. The only person at risk is you, the man I love the most in the whole world: the one person I intensely want to protect from harm.

 

Oh forget it.

[WCSDancer2010]

Hows about this:

 

Disclosing GHSV2 - "I want to start this relationship with honesty and openness…. so I have something to tell you. You know the cold sores people get on their lips? I get a similar thing down there. Both are the Herpes virus. If I take suppressive meds and/or we can use condoms, and we don't touch me when I have any signs, we can reduce the risk of you getting it down to less than 2% ... If we use both it would be less than 1%. Given that 80% of people have herpes, you may have it and not know unless you specifically asked for the test anyway. I really like you and if we get physical I will do everything in my power to keep you from getting it. And in a way, I am safer than most because I KNOW I have it and how to manage it. Most people like me got it from someone that didn't know they have it or we were lied to.

 

Disclosing GHSV1 : Simplest way is to say "You know the cold sores people get on their lip? I get them down there. So if you've had a cold sore, you may have the antibodies and it would be difficult for you to get it from me. If you are not sure, then we need to be careful ... HSV1 doesn't shed much but I can take suppressive meds and/or we can use condoms until you get tested. 80% of people have HSV1 so you may have it and not know" …so it would be best if you get tested first so you know for sure. Here's a handout that has some statistics if you are interested...

 

Your best bet is to read all the Success Stories that you can , and to get well informed about it. I'm going to put some links to my favorites below ... including @thisisgoingtobeok's story (because you had commented on one of her postings) ...

 

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/categories/herpes-talk-success-stories

 

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/3036/i-had-the-herpes-talk-and-he-said-thisisgoingtobeok

 

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/3439/tonight-is-my-night NSgreenville

 

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/3453/proper-vocabulary-i-have-herpes-vs-im-a-carrier-of-hsv blueeyes…

 

(((HUGS)))

 

 

[forgivenessandpeace]

Thank you for your continued dedication to this community @WCSDancer2010. I'm going to practice these scripts :)