First Gyno Appointment Post Herpes Diagnosis

[ivoryrain]

I have my annual exam today with a new gynecologist since mine retired. My old one was very understanding and comforting with my mother when she was diagnosed with H and told her to give him a call if she ever needed anything. He was just someone who genuinely cared about everyone. He delivered me, so he has known me literally since I was born lol. Anyway, I was diagnosed about 2 or 3 weeks ago, and I'm not too thrilled about telling a doctor I've never met before that I have H. I know that's silly because statistically 25% of her patients have it, but I'm still slightly unnerved. I know a good doctor will not be judgmental or anything less than understanding. I just don't know when the appropriate time to bring it up will be. I assume it'll probably be on the sexual health history checklist and I won't have to directly say it.

 

Are there any questions that I should probably ask? I do want to be tested for HIV and find out which simplex I have, so I'll ask for that (ugh I hate blood work!). I also want to discuss my future fertility because whoever gave me H was probably who gave me chlamydia. If I've had these as long as I believe I have, I could possibly be infertile from the chlamydia. Is there anything I should know for my first annual post-diagnosis? I've never really had a full annual because last year I had a yeast and bacterial infection, so I was told to come back after treatment (which my gyno retired about a month later and my university said they don't perform full annuals - pelvic exam, pap smear, etc - for women under 21 when I scheduled with them wtf???).

 

Sorry this was so long for a few questions, but I guess I'm just kind of nervous, especially because I'm going by myself - my mom and I always scheduled the same day :P

[forgivenessandpeace]

You can do it! Hopefully this new doctor will be professional and compassionate. If not, you can keep looking!

[WCSDancer2010]

Sorry I didn't get to this earlier - hope you got your answers.... ;)

[ivoryrain]

Thanks for replies! (Sorry this is so late) She was super understanding and supportive. Even though I felt silly for some of the things I asked, she didn't make me feel stupid for asking. I'm sure she's asked the same questions over and over though :P