Where's your Sugar at? Or, what have You learned lately?

[Carlos]

Today, my sugar is at "good" after having read an inspiring piece at VICE: "Finding Love with Herpes, Thanks to STI-Positive Online Dating". The author talks a good game in favor of online dating and interviews a couple who met on a herpes dating site

 

Note: I'm not selling the idea, but more and more, I hear from others (STI-positive or not) about the power of online dating.

 

I've learned lately that I'm too keen on isolating myself. True, I'm a Lone Wolf, but sometimes a Lone Wolf wants to partner up with another Lone Wolf for walks in the moonlight.

 

Read the story of that couple here: http://www.vice.com/read/finding-love-with-herpes-thanks-to-sti-positive-online-dating-396?utm_source=vicetwitterus

 

YOUR TURN.

Where's your Sugar at? Or, what have You learned lately?

[WCSDancer2010]

I have a man who is seriously Woo-ing and Pursuing me who I met on Plenty Of Fish who read about my status before we ever met ... and he's ok with it.

 

I *personally* haven't done well with the STI-dating sites because there are so few guys in my area on there and even fewer I'd want to meet/date. Many (in my experience) want to isolate themselves and only date someone who is "damaged like them" - and I don't want to date someone with that belief..... but again, that is me .. and given how "out" I am, anyone who is with me will need to understand that likely all his friends will know he's dating "a girl with Herpes" at some point, because I'm a very outspoken advocate and I won't compromise that for anyone...

 

That said, I know that those sites DO help many people find love ... or at least to get their sexy back while they are healing, and that is a GOOD thing :)

 

Great article :)

 

 

[Carlos]

Today I learned, or rather continue to show to my stubborn self, that the more I want another person or a group to validate my worth, the more I feel like I'm barking up the wrong tree with the fervor of a Chihuahua.

 

I see that I have to let others be. And most importantly, I see I have to leave myself alone.

 

Your turn: what did you learn today, sugar?

[Carlos]

today i learned that just because I live in a great cozy sugary house in bergen county NJ, that I'm not gonna get a romantic partner, or anything for that matter, helicoptered in.

 

I have to go out there to get/find/achieve it - and that means doing the footwork. Giving, giving and giving is what makes the receiving possible.

 

I also learned that when I call people back and they don't return my call right away, I get real jaded real quick and dismiss the person altogether. Again, the receiving is not the point. It's what's going out (of me) what matters.

 

I've known all this. Now I see that I also forget if I don't stay on point. Ha!

 

YOUR TURN: what have you learned lately? where's your sugar at?