In denial...?

[Virgopoly]

I had the blood test that came back positive....I just know set up an appointment for a swab to be sure.

 

It's been 3 weeks since I found out I was positive but can't seem to wrap my head around it......I'm paranoid about passing it on, I dudley get on the preventative medicine right away but can't seem to bring myself to have protected sex with my husband....

 

How long did it take to come to terms with this , please share

[optimist]

@Virgopoly I think length of processing time is highly individual. For me, it was 2-3 months. I'm the type who likes statistics, so educating myself helped me come to acceptance. I was particularly swayed to acceptance by three statistics. 1) The vast majority of sexually active adults have HSV1, HSV2 or both, and either type can be transmitted to a partner's genitals and cause genital herpes. 2) Roughly half of women in my demographic (single, white, late 40s women) are infected with HSV2. 3) Up to 75% of women in my demographic are infected with genital herpes, either type 1 or 2. These facts made me realize I am far from alone, I am even in the majority. It normalized it for me, if that makes sense.

[MMissouri]

I agree it varies depending on the individual and in your case the couple. What are your husbands thoughts on this?

[Virgopoly]

@mmissouri.... my husband thinks I'm overreacting, he hates seeing me having such a hard time with this. He is the type that says "it is what it is" and just moves on, I just can't do this.

[optimist]

@Virgopoly For what it's worth, I think many newly diagnosed people feel this way (I certainly did) but eventually come to accept it and often even get to that "it is what it is" place. It can take a while. Hang in there!

[MMissouri]

@virgopoly, I agree with optimist that what you are feeling is normal. I think that since your husband is so accepting, I would follow his lead (Outbreak free of course).