My significant other had her first outbreak since we've been together

[Hereforher]

Hey everyone,

So my better half has had her first outbreak since we've gotten together. When this happens she gets really down on herself and it kills me. Cause she is a very strong willed person.

I'm just looking for some insight on what I can do for her besides being supportive. 

Thank you ahead of time for any help! 

[KRS17]

Hey @Hereforher-

 

   Well, my friend, you are kind of doing what you can,  I have to assume by your message that there was no surprise, she disclosed and you guys had a good talk about it?  I can help more...if you give a little  background into how she's feeling?

[Hereforher]

Yeah, she told me right when we got together. We sat and discussed everything we could right then and there. 

Yeah, we have discussed how she feels when she has a breakout. It's very quiet and kinda get into her head. Sometimes looks defeated other times just beats herself up. 

 

[MarieH]

your a good partner 🙂 Just keep being you. Having you around just caring enough to worry about how to make her feel better will show.

[Notgoingthere]

She was very lucky to find you! I know this is gonna sound strange but you standing by her and no rejecting her is probably the biggest things you could ever do... maybe be romantic. Get her flowers.. try to get her mind off of it. I don’t know her but whatever she loves maybe get her some.

[KRS17]

@Hereforher

  Well, like it was said above, you are doing a huge amount just by listening and being there for her.  Notgoingthere has a good point, to try to get her mind off of it.  We do tend to get down on ourselves during outbreaks.  We're uncomfortable, often self conscience, and often distracted.  Perhaps an activity she enjoys, going out to a movie, or concert or just taking a walk?  In part, I think a key is subtly, as if she realizes that you are doing something too out of the norm it could possibly trigger a touch of anxiety or shame if she feels like it's become an "issue" that needs to be taken care of.  It really depends on her mindset.  I dont know how helpful we've been, but I hugely applaud you for reaching out to ask.  If there is anything else, you know where we all are 🙂

Cheers!