Can I Find Love After Herpes???

[Dreamer07]

Help! I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year now and just recently learned that I contracted GHSV1 from him through oral sex. Outside of dealing with this new finding, I’ve been thinking about calling things off with him for months. Now with my new diagnosis, I am scared. Will anyone else want me? Will I ever have a family? If you have been through this, please let me know how you handled it. I really think it’s time to move on, but I really don’t know how. 

Thanks for any responses

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[imkeewa]

don't worry. Many people with herpes infections still have a normal life. Antiviral medications will help you relieve the severtity of herpes infections and prevent it from coming back. Besides, the good news is herpes outbreaks can be reduced over time. Things you need now are:

- receive treatment: antiviral medicines or topical creams 

- reduce stress

- think positively 

- eat more lysine foods

- tell with your partner and ask him to get tested 

 

[Amando]

Hi Dreamer07

Will anyone else want me = YES

Will I ever have a family = YES

Just move on as you would of done with out having H, the difference is,
when you meet someone new, you have to disclose, when & how is your call!
Of course you can get some knock backs but when you find someone who excepts you,
you will feel that much closer

Good luck & be positive!

 

 

[KRS17]

@Dreamer07

 

Hey, I am sorry to hear you are struggling through this.  It is absolutely hard enough to decide to end a long relationship without these worries on top of it.  Trust me, I do know.  If you've been having these thoughts for months prior to this, I think you know what your decision already is.  Please do not stay with someone you no longer feel is the right fit for you out of fear.  It will waste your time, and his, and you both deserve more.

 

    In helping you move forward, I would have to ask if you or he were aware of his status?  If it was a risk you agreed to? If not, if you've told him now what has happened?

[Dreamer07]

@KRS17

He is HSV1 positive. I got it from him...I found out about 2.5 weeks ago. After I found out, he mentioned that he gets cold sores. I saw something on his lip before, but it didn’t register that it was a cold sore. So here I am, 1 year later of dating him, now HSV1 positive too.

[Dreamer07]

@KRS17

Oh & no not a risk that I agreed too. 

[Dreamer07]

@Amando 

I sure hope so. Have you tried those dating sites?

[Dreamer07]

@imkeewa

My BF is HSV positive. I got this from him. Not a risk that I agreed to. He gets cold sores and didn’t know I could get it through oral, so it wasn’t something he really talked much about. I didn’t realize any of this until my first OB 2.5 weeks ago. Why me!? I catch myself laughing and enjoying myself like any other time and then I remember my situation and it takes my smile away. 

[Amando]

4 hours ago, Dreamer07 said:

@Amando 

I sure hope so. Have you tried those dating sites?

When you say those dating sites, do you mean the H ones?
If so, I don't think they are any good because no one shows their face on them 😄

I have used tinder & bumble in the past but I have recently got back with my ex girlfriend who I was with for 6 years before,
she has never bothered about me having H at all & always loved me unconditionally.

You will be able to find someone who loves you for being you, trust me
If you disclose & they reject you, I won't lie, it can hurt a lot but just shows they were not good enough for you.
So be stubborn, don't give up & get out there & try again 🙂

 

 

 

[imkeewa]

23 hours ago, Dreamer07 said:

@imkeewa

My BF is HSV positive. I got this from him. Not a risk that I agreed to. He gets cold sores and didn’t know I could get it through oral, so it wasn’t something he really talked much about. I didn’t realize any of this until my first OB 2.5 weeks ago. Why me!? I catch myself laughing and enjoying myself like any other time and then I remember my situation and it takes my smile away. 

have you received any treatment for it? Although herpes isn't treatable completely, treatments help control herpes symptoms and prevent it from coming back. Hope you feeel better and try to think positive, you can still love and be loved, so don't worry

[Dreamer07]

I’m on Valtrex daily now