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Can I pass my oral herpes via oral sex?

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okay even though ive had this problem for 5 years i still dont know all the answers... ive always been confused about oral sex with herpes.. i have oral and genital and i have a few cuts on my lips from just chapped lips or biting them, but if i were to give oral to this guy ive been seeing would i transmit it to him? its not a cold sore and its not a huge gash on my lip its just from me biting them, im nervous and dont have the knowledge behind this issue and i am seeing him and have been getting more physical but i keep stopping when we are in the middle of kissing because im scared to go into anything further and ruining whats happening so far, so any advice and words would really help right now, haha also because i am seeing him tonight and would like to have answers :)

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If it's not an active outbreak on your lip, then there's a very small chance of passing it since oral herpes doesn't silently shed much (look up asymptomatic viral shedding). 50% of new genital herpes cases are HSV-1 from oral sex (most of those cases are females getting genital herpes because a vagina has more mucous membrane than a penis). But only if you're sure that the cuts and such aren't herpes-related. Sometimes herpes outbreaks can show up as what might be mistaken as small cuts or lacerations. Best thing to do is to talk about all of this with your guy. Have open, honest conversation about the small risks and how you will do your best to keep him safe, including not going down on him if you feel an outbreak might be coming on. Open communication is the best STD safety measure there is.

This content is for informational purposes only. This information does not constitute medical advice or diagnosis. I'm not a medical professional, so please take this as friendly peer support. 

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