Help!

[Sassy2543]

I need help, guys! I was diagnosed with herpes 4 1/2 years ago. I have never transmitted it and have never really had issues.... until last night. 

My boyfriend and I have been going through a rough patch and haven't been having sex. Yesterday, I decided to use a toy, knowing that I tend to get yeast infections from them. Well, a couple hours after I was done, I noticed that my righ inner lip was sore. I wasn't surprised because that is where the focus was with the toy. Last night, out of the blue, my boyfriend and I had sex. It hurt and little bit. I woke up this morning and noticed that my right inner lip was swollen and had a white pimple-like sore. It hurts mainly because I've been squeezing it. Now, I dont see the white spot, but my lip is still swollen. I have a gyno appt tomorrow but I'm freaking out to the max! I'm always sooo careful about watching for Obs so to think that I may be having an OB and had sex?! I hate myself! I am hoping that it's just a reaction to the vibrator. I never really have OBs and if I do, it's a bump around the anal area, on the outside of the vulva, and once a bump on the inside of the vulva. I know they can pop up anywhere, but the lip is a weird place for me. It seems like it's in the area of the bartholin gland, so I'm hoping that maybe the toy messed with the gland. I just can't bear the thought of protecting him for so long and us being so careful, and then this happened! 

[Bambina3]

Ave you been tested for h1 and 2?  Does your boyfriend know?  If so, he’s taking the risks with you.  You can have 1 break out in the vagina area as well as your mouth.  I have both 1 and 2 for approx 30 years. 

Sorry, I saw your help title and wanted to make sure someone responded.