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Feeling Brave!! Herpes disclosure time!

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I am having a random moment of braveness! Its been too long to sit here and carry on moaning about this problem, I'm bored of hearing myself speak about it! :D


I have met a few different people over time and I am seriously debating whether to just come out with it because I really want a sexual relationship, then again I'm so scared of saying it.


Should I just have sex without telling someone? Or find someone I can trust and someone I feel like I can tell? I don't know how they will react, so I need to find out because this is driving me crazy not knowing how it feels to be accepted.. or rejected lol.. It's all I think about! Every move I make I have to think about the fact I have herpes it's annoying me. I'm doing okay to be honest, I just want some male company so much!! I miss it!! I am posting all sorts of different subjects but I suppose that's the reason for this site! I don't know where I would be without this website I really dont! :-*

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I'm glad you're feeling brave. And I'm confused why you're asking us whether you should tell or not. Whose permission are you looking for here? I'm thinking you need to find permission in yourself. And it's not just permission on whether or not to disclose herpes.


My take is it goes deeper than that for you specifically. It seems like you're needing permission to pursue what you feel you deserve to have in your life: love, connection, companionship. But where will you find that? On this forum or in yourself? I have my opinions and everyone reading this right now has theirs. But what are yours?


I'm glad you're ready to take the chance. Remember to trust in yourself. Remember that you are not herpes. If they accept, they are accepting you and everything you are; if they reject, they are rejecting herpes, not you. Remember that. Good luck, EmmaLynn. You have a lot of support here. I'm proud of you.


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