Well, you are both being way too paranoid about transmission. If you are that worried I would either wait a few more months to make certain she is worth the risk, or you might want to move on. The transmission risk is so low female to male, her on valtrex and you wearing a condom......there's no need for further protection unless you just abstain from sex entirely. You can read the risks in the handout from this website. Yes, there is risk, but you are safer with her knowing she has H and has taken every step to lessen transmission, than you would be with anyone else unless you've witnessed their std testing proof. Lots of people, including myself, have never passed this on and a lot of people opt to just forgo condoms and just take anti viral. Best of luck to you both! Kudos to her for disclosing and you educating yourself on H. It's really not a big deal unless you make it one!