TequilaGirl

When I had my first outbreak I didn't knew it was an outbreak, I thought it was a UTI amd took meds for that. After seeing it didn't got better I went to the OBGYN and she diagnosed me. I experienced loss of appetite, light leg heaviness/pain, kinda runny nose and i think I had a little fever (never cheked my body temperature but I felt my face kinda hot but I didn't care about it so much because I thought it was bc of summer). All this symptoms started after like 2 days after having sex with the only sexual partner I have been with (my bf of 4.6 yrs and we been having sex for like 3 years and a half so I know he gave it to me). My first outbreak was so painful. I don't know either if that day we had sex he gave it to me or if I have had it since we starting having sex (I haven't get any kinda test to even know which strain I have) but I think it was a new one, but honestly idk. Also I have been experiencing a lot of discharge since after like 1 week my diagnosis and kinda tickling when I pee. My OBGYN says it's nothing... I have been diagnosed like 4 months ago. Nowadays i'm not on supressive therapy and I have been experiencing OB's kinda frecuently (each month when my period comes and somethimes in between but milder that the first OB). Mentally I've been like a rollercoaster with ups and downs but I'm always thinking about H. So I'm kinda jealous that you have been well (but good for you! Not trying to be nagative of shady by any means) I wish I could feel the same way.

I'm curious about how people find out the truth? (If they partner cheated on or if theu knew they had H and didn't disclose) Y first and only partner gave me this and in the middle of a long term relationship makes me think about a lot of stuff....

@Dazed-and-Confused honestly thank you so much! You made me cry (I guess i'm kinda sensitive haha) I know it takes time and hard work to get used to live with H and absorb the idea that it's not a big deal, but like you said, keeping a positive mind it's very important so I def will give yoga a try! Have nothing to lose right? Well maybe OB's, who knows! Again, thank you so much for your words, positivism and support! I really appreciated it.

@Dazed-and-Confused Thank you so much for your answer! Yes, I have talked with my OBGYN and she says that it's because I'm always thinking about it and stressing myself and at some point my body should control it, but idk... recently i've tried to calm down about this but i keep having OB's and then everything gets back to thinking about H, it's like a cycle 😞 BTW, I'm soo jealous that you had just 1 OB. You should feel good by now.

I was wondering if it is normal/good/bad thing to have OB's during my period and sometimes in between? (The majority its mild like paper cuts or so and others not so mild (kinda like 1 lil bump or so). I had my first OB like 4 months ago and it was very awful, nothing compared to what i'm having now. I'm not on supressive meds.

@Ishmael @PinkTiger Thank you so much for you answers! It means a lot. Honestly I have trouble trusting people when I can't totally know why/when/how happens something and when it comes to health issues I stress even more. Yes, definitely he gave it to me. And I get kinda angry because he doesn't educate himself about H I'm the one who tell him facts and so. When I went to the gyn she told me that it wasn't a big deal and that maybe I have contracted it from somewhere else or maybe my bf gave it to me I mean she was really careless about it (now that I have done my research I know that I didn't catch it from somewhere else) and that's what I told him so maybe he stayed with that and didn't research anything else... on the other hand I'm thinking and reading about it every single day... and when I talk to him about it he always asks me what can he do to help me of make me feel better and bla bla bla which makes me feel good, that he cares and when I tell him to get tested he never says no. I kinda doubt from him because we have had issues like a month and a half before we had the symptoms but deeply I kinda know that he wouldn't cheat but here affects my trusting people problems so it's like a neverending story... also he got std tests like 3 years ago and he came back all negative (obviously he didn't get tested for H so like you said, I can't totally know when he contracted it and that stress me so much!) The only thing I know for fact it's that I will have to deal with H for the rest of my life... 😖😪

Hi there, I'm still in the phase of accepting H. Long story short I contracted H from my first and only partner (my bf with who I've been in a 4.6 yrs monogamus relationship (hope so!)) so I know he gave it to me, right? When I was diagnosed aprox 3 months ago the first thing that crossed my mind was that he cheated on me because we had an outbreak at the same time (his milder tho) I asked him and he said that he didn't cheated and that he had never experienced something like this. So the only thing I can do its trust him, right? 🤔 Now I'm dealing with the psychological stress of having H and what bothers me it's that he doesn't care about it and that stress me more 😖 and he denies that he gave it to me but wtf in my case he's the only one I have ever been with... So my question is how likely it is to contract H after like 3.5 years of having sex if no one cheated and he says that he had never had sores downthere? Does that mean that he probably cheated? Can someone be an asymptomatic carrier and never show symptoms until now (bc he have had partners in his past)? And how likely it is to have an OB at te same time? Which blood test do you recommend to kinda know how long have you have had the virus? Idk, I can't get some peace of mind

@happyman_adventurous omg thank you so much! Seriously you have gave me some peace of mind with all this valuable information! About the test, are you referring the Western blot test, the Elisa or other ones? (I can't remember if is IGG or something like that). If you can guide me about the tests to detect HSV I would be immensely grateful. Btw I'm sorry if I have some grammar issues but english isn't my native language, but hope you can understand me!.

Tank you so much for taking the time to read and answer this post @happyman_adventurous. The info you provided me was eye opening, so I'll try to seek solutions. I didn't understand the discordant couple topic 🤔 are you saying that maybe my bf cheated? Could you please explain that to me if you don't mind. Also do you know anything similar to the bladder control problem? Thank you so much in advance.

Hi everyone, I'm just a 25 yrs old girl very worried and confussed. Here's my story. I have been in a 5 year serious relationship with my bf (he's the only one i have ever had sex with but he have had sex before with other women before we met) and almost 3 months ago I was visually diagnosed with herpes. One day I had sex with my bf and at the moment he penetrated me I started feeling like my vagina was burning and hurted like hell. We finished and 2 days after, I started feeling weird down there, my legs felt heavy, I think i had some fever and I was kinda tired. I ignored it like a week. I tought it was a UTI because it burned like hell when I peed so I took medication for that and after seeing that the meds didn't work I started to be very worried. Long story short I told him that I wasn't feeling well in my private area and that I wanted to see a GYN. When I was in there she saw down there and at the moment she saw the bumps she told me "uhh this is herpes" don't worry it's not a big deal. I asked her if I needed to get tested or anything and she said no so she didn't swab or anything so I DON'T know which type of HSV I have. I told her how could this been posible if I have been only with my bf and never have anything like this before and she told me that the virus can lay dormant for years and bla bla bla. I was shocked. When I got out of the clinic I told him the diagnosis and he told me that he had 3 small kinda bumps in his penis too since the last night we had sex, soo we had an outbreak at the same time!... he claims that it's the first time something like this happens to him too. HOW COULD THIS BE POSSIBLE? the first thing that cross my mind was that he cheated on me because I can't understand how this could be happening now AT THE SAME TIME after like 4 years having sex?! I asked him if he cheated and he swears he didn't and he claims that before me he always used condom. I can't be sure about that. But I can't still understand how this could be happening? I mean it's obvious he gave me H right?. I am so sad that the first guy I EVER sleep with gave me this. I took acyclovir for 5 days and I felt better but after 1 week I loss the sense of peeing and I couldn't pee at all. F***!. I was so stressed because why it's this happening to me. I went to the GYN again and told her the peeing problem and that I was feeling like the entrance of my vagina tickles when I peed and abundant transparent cervical mocus. She examined me and told me I had a bacterial vaginosis, gave me some meds and vaginal ovules. She also told me that was so weird that I couldn't feel the urge to pee (she was looking at me like if I was making that up) I told her that I was peeing only once a day and she gave me emselex, I took it and I gradually started peeing again but still I couldn't feel the urge to pee. I couldn't stop thinking that she didn't look worried about those problems but I was. I went home, finished the treatment. The peeing problem kinda solve but it's not the same. Now I can go to pee but i don't feel the same like before all this happened... also since almost 3 months i'm still dealing with the tickling and abundant cervical mocus in my vagina. I have been under extreme stress because all this problems that somethimes I think I have something else like hiv or idk and since my first outbreak that was so severe I have had very mild outbreaks again (like 1 kinda papercut or small lession per month when i'm in my period, but in this last month I have had like 3 kinda mild ourbreaks but I attribute that I have been under so much emotional stress, soo I wanna think that this is genital hsv 1... sigh idk). I haven't get tested for H or STD's because she told me that I have to wait 6 months... but meanwhile I can't have peace of mind and I got 1 hemorroyd... I have so many questions... what do you think? Which type of herpes do you think I have? What are the chances that my bf cheated on me and gave me H AND have an outbreak at the same time? Why did I lost the sense of peeing? Why do I feel the tickles and the mucos downthere? Hoping someone read this and give me a point of view.