Iamme34

I'm happy that uve found someone u like... N as much as we get upset it's all for good reason... N he's it is. Shitty deal.. I wish people were out there As honest as we r.. I truly believe in letting it be their choice.. N having someone who is willing to risk, is truly an amazing person... That's why I am so scared.. I never want to be to blame for that... Guess that's why I am having such a hard time with it... But all smiles for you!!! U help me see hope in All this :0)

I have told my mom who all along was telling me it wasn't it.. N my sister who is very supportive... I have a guy friend who've I also told recently... N he told me he dated someone for years with it n never got it which was a relief n has been really helpful... As much as I've excepted it.. I am truly scared to give it to someone.. I've always been ok with carrying Around my emotional baggage.. N now I have something else following me.. I cried for days over this n having this guy friend except it was a relief. N as much as it felt good I know he doesn't want it.. As no one really does... I feel like I've been given h for a reason, to really be able to build a relationship n be trusting.. With one another but when that happens I want to be able to be smart about not being able to transmit it to this person.. N it scares the living day lights out of me... I don't get many ob, n I am not on anything n my first initial ob was in February of 13... I am really not good with taking medicine, n my body has never reacted to well on it.. So if I don't have to I don't want to... Which leads me to think I'm about to embrace a sexless life:0( god that sounds awful..

Hi I just wanted to tell you, u are not alone... I've had it for months now but my outbreaks are very lil n not long... I think the longer u go the better it gets... I've heard the anti meds do make people itch everywhere... Not sure if it's true because I've never been on them but I've heard a lot of people talk about that.. I do get itchy down under every now and again with no symptoms of anything.. But I do believe it's something that happens while ur body is getting use to the skin condition... Trust me when I tell you, You are not alone.. Everyone here has gone thru some kind of confusion... With this virus... I can't understand why the blood rest would be confusing though.. My doctor tested three strains... 1&2 and heroes simplex n mine came back positive for hsv 2... I'm so sorry to hear about all the issues but I'm telling you I'm so right there with you.. In my opinion I would just for now look for support find info on what u MIGHT have n love urself... U are not dirty, Or anything else in that matter... Everything happens for a reason n I will understand the longer u go, n the more support u have, this is a skin condition... N just one u have to be cAreful with... If u need anything I'm here... Much love and support for you... Love you.... U deserve that right now atleast...<3 u are not alone... We r standing right here.. Besides they say if we all with herpes were to hold hands it would stretch across the world... That's definitely not alone...:0)

Thank you... I have cried a lot... N even though everyday I worry about what I have, I am excepting it... I am ok with it now.. I just feel I will be alone forever... N maybe I should now... I just feel hurt now... Like damaged... Like I will never find someone who will except this... So I guess at some point I hope it goes away.. N in future really understand so I don't hurt anyone with my skin condition..:0( thank u for talking to me... Sometimes u feel alone in this big world.... I'm glad I have someone who understands<3

Thank you so much for ur reply.. This site has been wonderful for me. It's helped me deal with so many issues not just my knew found friend.. lol I really need to educate myself so that I don't give this to the person I care about... I'd really appreciate any advice or information you might have.. N thank you uve lifted some spirits today for me.. N I am also here for you too, no matter what the reason... Support goes along way in everything... I'm a great listener...:0)

Ok so I've been dealing with a lot about having herpes.. N I am ok at this point that I have this special thing about me... I'm kinda feelin like it gives me a great reason to go slow n not commit until I really know this person is the one.. I know I was suppose to think like this before.. But here I am now... So the reason I am posting is because I've talked to someone I am interested in.. N he has accepted my disclosure very well.. N is still interested also... But the problem I am having is I am really confused on how not to give it to him when we are ready... I want to be so educated to the point where i can be very aware of when I am having or starting an outbreak.. Or when I am shedding... I really don't want to give this gift to anyone.. I'd really appreciate any advice so that I am really careful when I tak these important steps.... It's in my future to be sexy again.. I just want to be safe n sexy...:0) please any information will be greatly appreciated.... In my mind loving myself comes first n foremost!!!! Much love to you all...

I understand how u feel exactly... I can't tell you how this site has helped me tremomdously, for many reasons... Supportive people, Who care, the information so we can continue to love and he healthy.. But at times it is very hard to understand n scared to let anyone in on what we now have.. I say the same thing as I'm not going to let it become me.. But as much as I say it I need to believe it... I truly believe that time heals everything n I understand feeling alone.. U can always contact me when ever u want.. I'm here for you... Be strong n love urself <3

Thank you so much adrial for that phone call... N I will say yes I did learn a lot in this process so far.. That I am letting people reject me because I am rejecting myself first... Letting h become me... I understand one thing about myself.. In my past relationship I was needing something n not finding it.. So as I said before as looking at herpes as a gift to have better communication n better fulfillment of life in general... Taking more in, in a relationship... Rejection is still scary, but i realize that as soon as I except myself first n my skin condition, people will see me in a different light... I'm gonna need a lot of work:0)

I've had herpes for almost 8 months n was recently diagnosed... Well atleast I think it's been that long.. Finding it hard to even want to look in a guys direction... Scared that a guy who would be interested won't be once I disclose... Very scared, although I am ok with having the herpes just in my head no one will ever see the light in me again.. Is it wrong to feel like I'm cArrying so much baggage now... I'm trying to look at this situation as a gift, to have a strong meaningful relationship before disclosing and being intimate. Still not sure, n scared of rejection...

Hi I'm having some issues with excepting what has happened to me.. I'm tryin to not let this be bigger than I am... I was diagnosed a month ago... I feel like I am in a huge hole.. Want to get back the light:0) please help someone....

Happy anniversary... U had me in tears... It's been such a dark place... Knowing u found this site and it helped to see the light in this world.. Thank u.. I cried when u said please love you... I needed this and this site more than anything:0) thank you n happy anniversary!!!! Cheers xoxoxoxo

I understand how u feel... I just did this myself... As much as it hurt... The person I told understood m told me he dated someone for 4 years with it before... He never got it.. It was a relief telling someone who already cared about me

I haven't really had any help with it at all... Looking for ways to not be able to give it to anyone... Like I said I've had a few outbreaks n it's definitely not as bad as the first... But don't even know how to cope with this... Could use some advice n some help... Like I said I need my sexy back :0( lol

I am a female, 34 years old.. I live an hour from the big apple... Discovered that I had herpes 2, after the fact that I was sexually assaulted... It's been pretty hard to come to both realizations... I went to doctor after doctor telling them I thought I had it.. No help there... I was shocked that people are discouraged to actually get tested.. So I went on my way.. Decided I wasn't going to except it.. Got tested n it came back positive for hsv2... I've been dealing with this on such a wrong level... Feeling unwanted n "damaged" is the word I have used.. I've had two outbreaks since.. N as much as I am trying to not let this disease become me instead of part of me.. It's very hard... I have resently told someone I have strong feelings for... N believe it or not he understands... But in my heart I know I just entered the friend zone... Very scared that now no one will except me.. N am alone n scared...

I am a 34 and was diagnosed in April... New at this n really feel alone in all this... Living in the New York area... I am attractive but feel like I am my disease.. Need major help:0) it's greatly appreciated.. Need to get my sexy back:0( lol