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  1. The easy answer for this is, "try to remember how you felt when you were diagnosed with herpes, when you found it out, when you felt disrespected". He has all the right to hate you, to never talk to you again, to forgive you, to stop talking to you, etc. That's up to him. I remember the person who gave it to me when I asked her what she feels about the guy that gave her herpes whitout disclosing. Her answer was "hate". She still felt hate after 10 years. My answer was, "so what do you expect from me if you treated me in the same way he treated you". These are lessons. Apologize and mo
  2. The answer is YES. Once you get it, viral shedding occurs on your genitalia, not just where you got it. Studies show it when they study viral shedding and swab genitalia every day for a year, when you have and don't have outbreaks.
  3. NO problem. I'm glad I helped you. So, yeah. Disclosing HSV-1 genital is even more controversial than disclosing hsv-2 genital. Scientifically, you won't transmit HSV-1 genitally from genital to genital. Also, the chances your next partner has it are high. As you listened to this researcher in the podcast, she said, "I don't know if you should disclose hsv-1 before kissing, but you should disclose it if you are gonna perform oral sex". It gets complicated, isn't it? That's why I said "Disclosure of genital hsv-1 is more trust than transmission".
  4. NO problem. I'm glad I helped you. So, yeah. Disclosing HSV-1 genital is even more controversial than disclosing hsv-2 genital. Scientifically, you won't transmit HSV-1 genitally from genital to genital. Also, the chances your next partner has it are high. As you listened to this researcher in the podcast, she said, "I don't know if you should disclose hsv-1 before kissing, but you should disclose it if you are gonna perform oral sex". It gets complicated, isn't it? That's why I said "Disclosure of genital hsv-1 is more trust than transmission".
  5. Yes. No problem. I don't know if you are into science, but HSV-1 genital shedding is 2% of days, while hsv2 genital shedding is 17%. That's why. Transmission of genital hsv-1 occurs from oral sex. Also, the chances your next partner has hsv-1 are 50% at least. If he already has hsv-1, he wont't get it. Once you get it and build antibodies after 6 months-one year, you are not likely to get it in other place of your body. Also, if you don't get an outbreak in the next year with genital HSV-1, you are 80% likely to never again have one. Probably you also wanna know if your partner
  6. HI, Yes. Every person who catches it gets the dilemma you are dealing with. However, I would approach in a different way: 1. I got genital herpes, but the nicer one. HSV-1. The recurrences are low. Worst case scenario is one per year. Most people have just one outbreak of HSV-1 and nothing else. 2. Viral shedding of genital HSV-1 is so low and transmission is barely insignificant, that disclosure of genital HSV-1 is more trust than transmission. Genital to genital transmission of HSV-1 is extremly rare. 3. 80% of the population has HSV-1, 67% or 50% of americans has it. I
  7. Yes. You should get tested again. Scores between 1.1 and 3.5 have around 50% chance of being wrong. To be sure in a herpes blood test, you should do the test 3 months after last exposure. Or you can get the western blot test offered by the UNiversity of Washington. This is the gold standartd test for herpes, and it's normally used by people that get scores like yours, to be sure. IGM is worthless, don't pay attention to that. IGG is the most accurate. Yes. It can be a recent infection. If when you get tested again, you get a positive result, you can make the math and know, maybe, who ga
  8. No problem. I recommend you to watch a podcast in youtube or in this website about Terry Warren, a well know researcher about herpes. There you will understand the differences. When you get knowledge, you stop being afraid of the virus. Yes, it is important to know your status and his status. If both have hsv1 and hsv2, fuck it. There is no ping-pong. If you don't have hsv-1, what's the problem? 80 % of the population has hsv-1. If he doesn't have hsv-2, you can talk about how to take care about transmission. If he doesn't have hsv-2, but he has hsv-1, he is most likely to be
  9. Yes. You should get tested again. Scores between 1.1 and 3.5 have around 50% chance of being wrong in a herpesselect test. Make sure you get tested three months after the last exposure to make sure you give time to your body to build antibodies and shoe up in the test. Another option is to take the western blot test offered by the University of Washington. This test is the standard gold test and people with those values you got often take this test to make sure they have the virus or not.
  10. Most likely. A swab test from the sore is more relaiable and it is recomended when you go to the doctor with symptoms. If it was a primary infection, yes. When you catch the virus for the first time, it can take from 21 days up to three months to show a positive blood test. Science is science and nothing is 100%. You can take the blood test, three months or more after last exposure to confirm if it makes you fell better psychologically.
  11. Your doctor lied. YES! You can know which type of herpes you and yourboyfriend have. Doctors don't want you to know if you have it if you are assymptomatic. Get tested. It's your right. If the doctor doesn't agree, you can pay by yourself in any lab and do it without the need of a doctor. Genital HSV-1 is different than HSV-2 in the recurrence of outbreaks and viral shedding.
  12. There are podcasts with Terry Warren, who is one of the top researchers about herpes. There are two here, and other one in youtube. Try to watch them. I remember her saying that making a test while getting antiviral medication can come back negative. I would suggest to make a new test, just IGG. IGM is worthless. Make sure it is three months after the last exposure at least.
  13. Yes. He can do it, and it is not a obligation to have sores to get tested. He can say: 1. I know that it is a recommendation not to test, but I do want to know it. I am informed that if I want it, I can request it. 2. My partner has it, and I'd like to know my status so we can take decissions about our sex life. 3. If it is sooo odifficult to get a test. Just pay for it on QuestDiagnostic or another lab for it. I think it's like $120. No need to go with a doctor. What I said (haha): "I read about the recommendation, but I am not American! I want to know! I have
  14. Thanks for your comment. I think a lot of psycholgy plays a big part on it; and it depends on every person how to do it. In my case, I experience symptoms in a way I don't approach it as a skin condition; probably that's why I don't disclose talking about an overrated skin condition. It is not a bid deal, but I don't want to make a woman feel regret if their symptoms are like mine or worse. I agree with you, it is important for the partner to really understand the virus. I feel that their decission should come with a good knowledge of the virus. I think it should happen to som
  15. Hi Riseandfall, I've been hsv-2 postive for 5 years. I felt like you for 6 months, but you feel like this after 2 and a half years. I can share with you what I did to change it and cope with it: 1. Knowledge. I understood the virus completely well. I read academic papers and watched interviews with Terry Warren and other guy I don't remember the name. They are academics that study the virus for years. It's incredible how doctors don't even know about the virus, just that it is contagious with breakouts and that give you acyvlocir. 2. If I were you, I wouldn't even care about ha
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