victoriaxxx
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((: You can use just honey and lemon then if you don't like cinammon.
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Uhh.. GMO... Is not a supplement. Its what most of our food is made from.
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Nevermind. D: stupid html wont work. >.>;
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@bookworm21
First off I want to say Hi. (: Thank you for sharing your story with us today!
I am 20 years old and I have HSV-2. Honestly, you are not stupid for this happening to you. More people have it than you think they do. 1-5 people have HSV-2 and 8-10 people have HSV-1.
I know that it is hard overcoming the fear and the complications of finding out that you have Herpes, but let me tell you this. My boyfriend is still with me. He knows that I want to take things slow because I want to get to know my body better. He helped me a lot.
Even though I was there a lot of this process is accepting yourself aside from the stigma that Herpes has out there. My mom also has it and my mom and dad have been together for 22 years and has never caught. So don't think that no one you meet will ever be able to accept this, because there is a lot of people out there who do accept this and will accept this because they want you!
A lot of the things that we talk about here is how we come about talking about herpes and how we talk about disclosing. If you are comfortable with yourself and your herpes most likely the guy you want to be with is comfortable with it also. Body language also speaks a lot too. If you are upset about it and bring it up like its something bad then most of the time a man is going to freak out about it too. It's all about acceptance. How can somebody accept you if you haven't accepted it yourself?
It is all about positive feedback. I honestly don't think that you should tell the person you are with that you have been date raped and that is how you got herpes, because if the person really likes you than I don't think it matters how you got it. & No matter what it does not make you stupid. There are plenty of older people out there that got it also. Even with a condom you can still get it if there is an outbreak. You are never really completely safe, but if you can be open with yourself and a possible future guy then you can work around it and be safe. (:
You have already had it for 2 years, have you gotten on any suppressive therapy for it ?
I have I got on it for my boyfriend so we could take that extra step to be careful.
A lot of guys can also pretend to be good guys and in the end they are not and maybe they only wanted to have sex with you, because a lot of guys pretend to be nice to get what they want. All I have to say is that if they can not accept that then they are not worth it. They are not compatible, and you guys are not meant to be.
Here is the E-book
http://thehopp.us2.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=496e1102b22e0b6a6695ce671&id=83b37141ca
It talks a lot about disclosing in there. Also if you know the statistics and you know the facts then you know that there is someone out there that will accept you, but first you have to know YOURSELF despite what happened to you in life that you are beautiful inside and out.
Keep your head up, because it will get better.
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Yeah.. I notice that my stress level was coming down when my acne started getting better. I remember when I first found out about me having genital herpes I broke out soooo bad!! Hahahaha. Yeah I am trying to exercise more.... But the only thing I do is walk to the fridge !
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because it could be that you are over thinking. Your brain is overprocessing this. Maybe it could also be what you eat. Like Dancer always says, your body has a weird way of showing you when it is not completely healthy.
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Have you been stressing yourself out more lately?
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Keep your head up. <3
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Oh dang.. I have never heard of it being that bad. Not even from my mother, but go get yourself some Virgin Coconut Oil. See if that helps also. It is better to have more than one solution. I prefer the organic solutions.
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Lol. I know that I wouldn't even want my boyfriend to be in a scientific test where we were having sex during an outbreak.. So yeah those stats are going to probably be unkown.. But for woman it is harder to spread than a man. During an OB though it is a lot higher to give to someone, because that is when the virus is not dormant.
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When I felt the tiny bump down there in my genitals I spent EVERY waking moment I could googling Herpes symptoms, what herpes looks like.. && it didn't really help at all. It just made me more and more anxious. More and more stressed out. My boyfriend could so tell that I was stressed out. He kept asking me what was wrong and I would never tell him. I just kept googling and googling. Nope it just made me more worried! && if you stress yourself out and you do have it most likely you are going to cause yourself to have an outbreak.
Like she said Herpes genital or oral is not the end of the world. && If you have HSV-1 down there then you are a lot luckier, because it sheds and outbreaks appear less.. I am in the HSV-2 category. I know it is hard, and the stigma is a lot worse than what it really is. 1-4/5 people have HSV-2 and every 8-10 people have HSV-1. Like she said we make it a lot worse than what it is. Once the reality sinks into your own head that its not as bad as people make it out to be, then you will be just fine. && I promise you will be fine anyways.
Much love!
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No the teaspoon of cinamon doesn't burn. The only reason I said chamomile tea is because usually people do it with just hot water and cinnamon and honey, but I like to use it with tea. So yes you can use it with any kind of tea really.
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AHHHH. You don't really want to go on a diet. I don't believe those are good, but you would really want to regulate your junk food intake. (GMO's) I really am against anything genetically modified. Our body can not break down scientifically made nutrients, like they say we can. Thus creating our metabolism to be worse.. I mean I don't know if you seen, but in America we have one of the highest obesity rates. 75% of the food that america sells in stores is banned in over 60 other countries because of how bad and unhealthy it is for you.
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I was talking about this before. I used to get cold soars and fever blisters really bad, but I haven't have an OB since I was 13.. && I have never tested positive for HSV-1. It could be that I have it so under control.
You can still get it on your genital area, but HSV-1 has a lot less shedding that HSV-2.
&& now that I read this I see where you are coming from. Since you got tested when you were with him it is most likely that you did get it from him.. Have you asked him if he had an OB and where it was located ?
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It is possible, but less likely. Do not stress yourself out love.
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I completely agree. You stressing yourself out and your anxiety could definitely be a be a big trigger for your symptons. Trust me if you have been tested 4 times and it was negative for type 2 and positive for type 1 then you probably just have type 1.
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Yeah I hate the flu, and when I get it my cough just won't ever go away.. I have bronchitis on top of it. Then usually turns into pneumonia x_x; Nope ! I hope you feel better..
A good suggestion I have for your cough is a natural remedy I use. Chamomille tea, a teaspoon of honey, and a teaspoon of cinamon. Mix it right up and drink it every 3-4 hours.
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Yeah see it is different for every doctors office, every place you go.
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Well is your metabolism high or low ?
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The blame game will not help get you anywhere, because like she said there really is no way to tell and IGM tests are not 100%. I got an IGM test and it said that I was not recently exposed to it that I had it for a while.. But I am not so sure about that because my test 3 months ago was negative.
I mean I never really used condoms ( my own dumb decision) and I ended up getting this, but the fact of the matter is even with a condom is that if you or your partner have an OB it can still be passed, because a lot of the time condoms do not cover the area with the OB occurs. That is the truth you can still pass it on due to viral shedding.. && in the first year of having Herpes the viral shedding is at it's worst.
A lot of people do think that they are okay, look at me for example. I thought I was okay, and come to find out that I am not. The truth is a lot can happen in a month. Some of us -cough- me... I am not even going to lie, were more promiscuous than others. && within a few months anything can happen.
Also did you have your partner get tested? Do you know that he has it, because there is a chance that he did or didn't give it to you.
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Mmmm. Maybe I will read this up. I usually exercise after I eat or something like that because it normally breaks down the food and sends it to the correct place. I mean I can understand for some people because their bodies aren't able to break food down the correct way, but I have a high motabolism so I don't think something like that would be good for me.
(( I have horrible spelling and excuse my bad grammar . ))
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Usually it takes 3-4 days for mine to come back. You have to give the lab time to assess it. They also assess a lot of other peoples tests in the lab.
I usually give it at least 3 days. Then I call in and check.
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I don't believe in supplements that help you eat more or eat less. In my mind I just feel as if we should let our bodies do what they do. I mean you can look more into it if you want to I guess. That is just my own opinion.
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@Herrytheherp
It is crazy how we are all scared to talk about sex even though we are surrounded by it daily. I mean there is always a stigma also on how we should look, feel, live, and be. I mean seriously this getting H thing has seriously helped me do a 360 also. In accepting my sex life and potential sex life with other partners.
&& I think you will do well finding love in the future. <3
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Scrolling through my FB feed... && The remark someone made.
in General herpes discussion
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I was just going through my facebook feed and I was looking through the statuses like normal, and I come across this post on there from this girl that I know, and it says...
"STD's are not cute, quit sluing around and it's gross."
Wow. That was uncalled for. Especially to post on your facebook feed. You know? I was naive before also, then I learned a thing or two. I learned that it is not the way to be. Who is to say that I am a whore or anyone is a whore for that matter.. ?
Here we go back to the stigma of this. People make STD's out to be something far more than what they are. It makes me think about how childish I was at one point.
I messaged this girl & I told her the facts. It could be your first time and you can get an STD. I asked her when was the last time she has been tested she said a year ago. I told her that Herpes test is not included in a regular STD check and that most people have it. I told her to stop being ignorant and stop posting stuff like that, because there are people out there that are struggling with stuff like this and it is not something to be rude to someone about. She called me a slut and she blocked me. Needless to say she is apart of why this stigma is so bad..
It kind of stung for a minute, because I was thinking about that battle in my head that part of me that kept saying " Your a dirty whore... You are a stupid slut." Finally coming to terms with it, knowing that I am not dirty... Knowing that it happens. It is not something we can change.. That doesn't make us any less of people. That doesn't make us sluts.. That doesn't make us bad.. Am I gross ? Are we gross, because we aren't we are people, we are only human.... && there are a lot of things that are not in our power.
I just kept saying this is not something to make a stupid joke about, this is for life.. and there are a lot of people out there that are hurting.. People who haven't accepted it.
How do you think 1 out of every 5 people who saw that feels ?
This is not funny and we need to make a change..