[Just found out I have herpes.]

I brought the packets with me, I even printed out packets about other STD's also for him. Packets that my doctor gave me. I want to be able to be the change.

 

I just want to make sure that he is okay... I knew he felt vulnerable, because I could see that he started getting mad. Not at me, but at the situation. He said he rarely goes to the doctor anyways.

You know I have noticed men don't really go to doctors. I told him. Not only could you be infected with STD's and not know it. You could have other problems and not know it.

 

I also told him the statistics of how many infected people don't even know they are infected and he got this disgusted look on his face. I kind of got upset with him, but I didn't show it. I understand.. I used to be in his position. ( Not with the not getting tested of course, because my doctor made it very clear if I am sexually active I need to get tested at LEAST every year.)

[H Buddies, unite!]

I would like to have an H buddy to talk to and mentor me and help me that is close by..

[I get herpes outbreaks once a month - suggested herpes treatments?]

You know I am thankful that I have a great doctor and his LPN is amazing also. I have had my doctor all my life. Since I was a kid, now he is my Gyn and my family doctor. He is sooo helpful along with everyone else in the clinic also. Just sometimes doctors visits is not enough.

[Oral sex with herpes ... Can it happen?]

You know. It's really weird to say. I am soo happy with this guy. He knows that to start off with I don't want to have sex for a while. I want to get used to my body, my outbreaks.. My everything. I was open with my dad and mom. My mom has HSV-2 also. They are the ones that told me for the first year I should be celibate because of the fact that I need to get to know my body and its easier to spread within the first year.. I am on suppressive treatments. I started that. I have also been looking up natural remedies that might help also.

 

I like him for his mind. He is sooo smart. So handsome. So amazing. When he holds me.. it feels like it is enough. At least for right now. The way he treats me and cares for me is so amazing. Also I really love it, because he is helping me find out as much information as I can.. When ever he finds out something he tells me about it. Whenever I find out something I tell him about it. I believe the best way to get over this stigma is by education. Also, at first I felt like such a dirty person. If it wasn't for him. I wouldn't have come so far in only a few weeks. Which is why I am okay with his opinions. His decisions. I just want him. He has been the best guy that I have ever been with.

Oral sex or not that doesn't keep me from wanting him to be mine.

 

I am sorry for rambling..

[Oral sex with herpes ... Can it happen?]

I am not going to force him on it. I want to be with him whether he pleases me orally or not. Doesn't change the fact that I want him... You know. Maybe one day he could get over it and be like " I want to orally please you. " Maybe it just needs to settle in his head. All I know is that I really really like this man.

I know it is his right to chose whether he wants to do that or not, which is why I am not bugging him about it. Constantly bringing it up. I actually have not brought it up since he said no, because like you said that is his right.

 

I just hope that one day maybe... he will say yes.

[Just found out I have herpes.]

Yes. That was the second thing I did after I told the guy that I am with. I told them all to get tested. They asked me what for. I told them for what since I know that it doesn't get covered in a regular STD check. I felt like that was also the right thing to do. I know that would be something I would have liked to hear. I have also told them the statistics about this. I told them the possibilities. I told them everything. ((:

It's still hard to tell someone to go get tested, but you know in the long run I am doing the right thing and helping them from potentially infecting others.

 

Also, I have a friend who has been helping me through this. He was there when the doctor called me and told me my test results. He says that he is clean also ( Mind you he is just a friend and we have never nor ever want to have sex) . I asked him when was the last time he got tested. He said never.. I kind of gave him this weird look. He asked me why am I looking at it. I said " If you are sexually active you should get tested at least every year." He said Well I know I am clean because I have never seen anything wrong. I really was trying to educate him. I said Do you know how many people out there don't know they are carrying the Herpes, HIV, Hepatitis... Or most STD ? I told him that he needs to go get tested because even if you dont " See anything wrong with you're junk" Doesn't mean there isn't anything wrong. Yeah so I am also just trying to educate in general. To make the stigma not as bad, because some people are so uncareful.

[Oral sex with herpes ... Can it happen?]

If you read my thing. It says that the guy that I am with and I have not had sex yet.

As of right now the guy that I am with is in a different state. We have known each other for a long time, we have been good friends.

He has been looking on CDC and other websites apparently. That's what he said. He said that there are so many studies out there that he can't be 100% sure. I said we aren't going to be 100% sure. No one will be.

All I know is that I just want to be loved the way I love him.

[Just found out I have herpes.]

@Sab123 I don't mind you rambling. It's hard I know. I was freaking out I was sure that he was going to leave me.. He said " This doesn't change you. You are still the woman I want to be with." He said " We just have to be careful." I talked to him about how you know that he has to be aware that even if we take precautions they are not 100% effective.

He said he doesn't mind because I am worth more to him then some silly stigma that everyone puts on this. It's not my fault. I mean I could have been more careful, but it can happen to anyone and I know that.

[Just found out I have herpes.]

I don't know who I feel violated by, but I know for a fact that it wasn't from the guy that I am with now. We have not even had sex yet. We wanted to take things slow. To do things the right way. So I thought since we are taking things slow I want to get tested to make sure that he is going to be safe. Also he has just been tested also. I have seen his results. Everything came back negative for him.. So i promise you it wasn't from him and I have no idea who..

[Just found out I have herpes.]

I mean I know life goes on. Of course it does. It's life things aren't perfect. Life isn't fair. I have been learning a lot about the disease. I am glad I was able to be open with him right away, because I just believed that wasn't something that I should hide. Not in the least. I would never want to give this to someone else. He knows that we need to be safe and communicate well. It just hurts my feelings. I feel violated and lied to.

[Just found out I have herpes.]

Well I think a little differently. Yeah I think everyone wishes this wouldn't happen to them. It's uncomfortable and it hurts. I know, my mom also has it.. But I can't really talk to her about it.

[Oral sex with herpes ... Can it happen?]

I kind of started getting emotional because he said he probably would not give me oral sex.. He said " I just don't want you to get you're hopes up."

[Oral sex with herpes ... Can it happen?]

I am talking to him about it. He keeps looking up information also. I told him that HSV-2 doesn't really effect the mouth area. He said he has seen a lot of different studies and they all come out differently. I mean I can understand... I just really want to receive oral sex.. Just like he want's me to give it to him..

[Just found out I have herpes.]

I know that I just found out that I have Herpes, HSV-2. I only found out about 3 weeks ago today. I remember finding only one little itty bitty bump. I thought had razor burn or something else. I am pretty sure most of you have been there. I was so scared. I told my new boyfriend at the time that I was going to get tested, because it is around that time of year. I already knew that herpes was not apart of the normal STD test so I always asked for it also. I told him I just wanted to be safe and make sure that he is okay in the long run. I was fretting it. I was so scared after that test was taken. I was so worried. Some how deep down I knew I had it. I didn't tell him at all what I was scared of.. I just knew that I was scared of how this would turn out.

 

So I called them three days later and you know the nurse told me I was clean from everything. I was so happy. I even asked "Even the herpes viruses?"

 

She said yes. A day later I get a call saying I am sorry I misread those tests. I was more pissed because I had already told the guy I was with that I was clean from everything. I was crying and crying. Hysterical...

 

Well 3 weeks later he is still by my side after I told him. As I am getting educated he is also getting educated. He told me he didn't want to leave me because that doesn't change what him and I have. The love that we share. I am thankful, but I am scared that I might give it to him. I know we are going to take precautions.. But it still makes me upset and sad. I wish this didn't happen to me.. You know ?

[Oral sex with herpes ... Can it happen?]

He is just scared and I con completely understand why. If I was in his shoes I would want to make sure that I am being safe and precautious. I just want to know the statistics. Like really, I read the link that he had.. But I know there are other studies out there. A lot of them come back differently.

[Oral sex with herpes ... Can it happen?]

I have HSV-2 and I was sitting here saying that I will never be able to receive oral sex again. My boyfriend said that it is probably one thing that is not going to happen. I am on antivirals and I only found out about 3 weeks ago. I don't want to even have sex for a while until I get used to the my body and my herpes situation. Is there any way that I can receive oral sex. I just want to know some studies or some individuals own experiences.