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Thank you so much for the amazing responses @fitgirl @positivelybeautiful and @WCSdancer2010 :) I was completed naive about this until I got it.. I actually thought it worked a lot like HIV where it transfers via fluids so I thought straight away that I would never be able to have children or have unprotected sex ever again which I now know to be completely false!! (Although I will definitely be using protection 100% of the time until i get to the point where i meet someone and we decide to have kids :)) It has been the greatest learning experience - for years I couldnt understand why I was so depressed but getting HSV2 made me realise that I wasn't living life for me and would stay in unhappy relationships because I didn't think I was good enough to do any better. I never slept around but fell into the trap of sleeping with said guy because everyone was laughing at me for not having slept with many people and being selective and kept saying 'just sleep with him who cares' Should have listened to my inner voice not theirs I think haha

*no big deal :)

Sorry to hear you had to deal with an awkward convo like that! I went to an STD specialist last week explained my situation (of having HSV2) and all she said was ok so you've got the cold sore virus like it was big deal. Her saying that made me realise that it is viewed exactly the same as having cold sores on your face!

Hi I was diagnosed just over 6 months ago with HSV2. I was originally misdiagnosed with a UTI until 3 days later I saw clusters of blisters appear. I was absolutely devastated mainly because I made such a stupid mistake which led me to getting this. Basically the guy I had been seeing for a couple of months had been sleeping with someone else too which I found out because she had read his messages and then contacted me. I told him to get lost but then he kept calling saying he really liked me and thought this could turn into something blah blah and like an absolute idiot I gave in and said we could keep seeing eachother (basically I had zero self esteem and didn't think I was going to find anyone else and thought the reason he slept with someone else was because I wasn't good at sex so I thought I needed to prove to this guy that I was in fact worth it in the bedroom) I went out and bought fresh protection and I remember thinking I should have one out and ready to go when the moment came but just thought no Ill do it then...so when then came I had pretty much this exact conversation with myself in my head - 'so it's getting to that moment where I need to grab one, Ahh this is so awkward what do I do. Should I just say it or ask? What if he says no to using it I don't want to get rejected or look like I don't know what I'm doing.I mean you can get rid of chlamydia and gon it's not big deal..what's the worst that could happen?' Well I found out what that worst thing was. HSV2! His reaction at the time was 'oh well shit happens' which is ridiculously chilled so I have a feeling he already had an idea that he had it..when I went to the docs he mentioned a rash he had - wouldn't you tell the person you were sleeping with and insist on using protection If you knew you had a rash?! Anyway after 6 weeks I got rid of the lying jerk. So as I said it's been 6 months and I'm still battling 1. With constant pain and tingles (my doctor diagnosed me with post herpetic neuralgia which just isn't getting better) and 2. I feel so ashamed at having this because I made a number of stupid mistakes - I used to ALWAYS use protection but as my self esteem slipped and the depression kicked in I stopped being aware of the right choices & What the hell was I thinking taking him back?! I didn't even like the guy I was just sick of everyone asking me why I don't have a bf. Is this something to be really ashamed of? I feel like if I wasn't in pain 24/7 down there I would be able to cope a lot better and move forward but right now I'm stuck ruminating about what happened and what I *could* have done to not get this.