The dating game

[newtothis22]

I’ve recently started dating again using an app, and it’s given me the opportunity to socialise with some really nice girls. Nothing has gone beyond a kiss yet, and I’m not sure exactly what I’m looking for, mainly a connection and to see it leads but I’m definitely in no rush for a relationship. 
 

There’s been 2/3 girls that have stood out to me so far, we have a great connection and go on a date once a week, although it’s still early days and only a couple of dates in. My thinking was to see how it goes and only disclose if things look like they might get physical. Their reaction will definitely help know if they are someone I want to keep in my life. If things do reach that level I’ll call things off with the other dates but I think it’s a good way to test our connection. 
 

Has anyone else had a similar experience and how did it work out? I’m definitely not ready for this chat with any of them yet but I hope this technique will work for me because I’ve never really dated multiple girls before. 

[mr_hopp]

@newtothis22

Good on you for getting out there and meeting new people. It’s like a buffet of connections – you get to sample a bit here and there before you decide what you really like.

And juggling a few dates at a time is totally fine — as long as you’re straight-up with everyone. Now, about the herpes talk – your game plan to wait until things might get physical sounds spot on. It’s like waiting for the right moment in a game – not too early, not too late.

And if you don’t feel like it’s time yet, no stress. You’ll know when the timing feels right. (When you feel like you can trust them with your vulnerability.) Remember, it’s about being fair to them, too. They’ve got a right to make their own call about their health.

Dating with herpes might seem like a tricky level in this game, but it’s all about how you play it. Keep it real, answer their questions, and stay cool. Be confident in your courage, openness and honesty. If someone’s not down with it, that’s okay. It’s not a game-over, just means they’re not the right player for your team.

And of course, if they’re cool with it, that’s a great sign. Means they’re open and understanding – exactly what you want in a teammate. 😉

So, keep having fun, stay honest, and don’t forget – it’s all part of the dating adventure. Good luck!

[newtothis22]

Thanks for your reply @mr_hopp

I’ve been on this forum a while and I’ve had the highs and lows of dealing with this virus. The lows of feeling like no one will ever accept me and the highs when they do. My last two relationships accepted my condition and I’m fortune enough to have never been rejected for it but I know this isn’t always the case. 
 

Taking it slow seems to work well for me at the moment. It means I have time to get to know people better, and as it has in the past the right time will eventually come for that talk. My biggest battle is having it in person, I’ve always done it over text so it would be a big achievement for me and help my confidence massively. 
 

Maybe none of these dates will work out, maybe one of them will turn out to be the love of my life. But if I don’t at least try I’ll never know. 
 

 

[montereypop]

On 11/27/2023 at 3:44 AM, newtothis22 said:

I’ve recently started dating again using an app, and it’s given me the opportunity to socialise with some really nice girls. Nothing has gone beyond a kiss yet, and I’m not sure exactly what I’m looking for, mainly a connection and to see it leads but I’m definitely in no rush for a relationship. 
 

There’s been 2/3 girls that have stood out to me so far, we have a great connection and go on a date once a week, although it’s still early days and only a couple of dates in. My thinking was to see how it goes and only disclose if things look like they might get physical. Their reaction will definitely help know if they are someone I want to keep in my life. If things do reach that level I’ll call things off with the other dates but I think it’s a good way to test our connection. 
 

Has anyone else had a similar experience and how did it work out? I’m definitely not ready for this chat with any of them yet but I hope this technique will work for me because I’ve never really dated multiple girls before. 

I think you've got the right mindset to start getting to know people again.

Obviously, its easier said than done, but you can use this condition to your advantage to filter out the people who are genuine about wanting to be with you. 

You have a positive mindset and I am sure things will work out great for you. Do please give us an update how things go in the future.

All the best!