YAY!!! A New Discussion Category! Send your H- Partners HERE!

[WCSDancer2010]

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/categories/non-herpes-partners

 

Adrial has given your H- a place to ask questions and get support from other H- folks as well as those of us who have dealt with this for awhile with H- partners....

 

Add this to your Disclosure talks... get them to join and get all their questions answered!!!

[HerryTheHerp]

So, does this mean that the H- place is a place to B+? Rimshot please. ;)

[WCSDancer2010]

LOL - love it Harry :)

[HerryTheHerp]

I live to please. This is actually a great resource and will help serodiscordant couples through everything from disclosure to relationship management. Great idea!

[WCSDancer2010]

Exactly! The partners in any mentally or physically challenging situation need support too...they have their own questions and concerns. And they don't necessarily want to be in the middle of the emotional soup of those who are dealing with adjusting to a new diagnosis ;)

[HerryTheHerp]

Emotional soup? Oh, you mean the Witches and Warlocks Brew. Yeah, that stuff can get kind of bitter at times. The wonderful news is that a little sugar and spice really does liven up the recipe. :)

[WCSDancer2010]

Lets just say the H- folks may not understand some of the stuff the H+ are going through but they have their own fears and questions... AND there are plenty who have been living H- for years who will have great advice to give others on keeping themselves safe..... attitudes .... humor...etc. So glad Adrial added this for them :)

[HerryTheHerp]

Ahh, yes. Sounds like a Will Smith song; Partners just don't understand (well, some of 'em anyway. ;)

 

It's a fantastic idea and I think lots of folks are going to appreciate the fact it's there.

[victoriaxxx]

Should I possibly send my boyfriend on this site?

[WCSDancer2010]

Absolutely! We already have one H- person posting on this thread so he could ask his own questions :)

[wicked]

Lots of questions - quick (kinda) synopsis - I am a 46 yo female with multiple sclerosis and have never been introduced to herpes and will be becoming sexually involved with a 48 yo male that has had his blood test result come back as a 8.7 (?) and has had previous break outs for the past 9 years - He will be starting the medication before we start our sexual relationship - we are gladly looking at a future together - we both want to be safe - I have always been told to keep my immune system suppressed because of the MS and now I am reading that maybe I should be looking at taking supplements to do just the opposite - is there anyone else out there that might talk with me about some of my questions regarding herpes AND ms ? - Also, I am a very open person regarding sex - I have very direct questions that I need answered - I love this man and want to make his life wonderful as he has done for me - thank you

[Judith]

Hi wicked,

 

well its great that you found the right guy and that you planning the future together.

I don't have MS but I do have 2 autoimmune sicknesses. I do have Crohn disease ( which means the cell of the intestine do kamikaze suicide ...not sure why they wane do that ,strange cells they are hehehhe ).

Well sure you need be more careful as usual person without any disease. We have a much bigger risk to contract herpes or whatever other virus the other people have ,I am not sure if you should supplements but go and ask your specialist what they think.

If you would get infected the possibility that you get more OB the other is more then possible , at least I do get more then normal people but this don't should hold you back to get sexual active with the man you care for.

He respect you with MS and you respect his H. He already started his antivirals and for reducing the risk it would be better if you use condoms.

He need to be honest and listen to all symptom's, he can have an OB without showing blisters but he have it quit a while so I am sure how he need to deal with.

I wish you both good luck.

enjoy your time together and don't make your mind crazy about H , it could happen with every guy you get intimate

 

Judith

[WCSDancer2010]

Hi Wicked!

 

First, Welcome... I'm glad you found us and we will do what we can to help you learn as much as you can about Herpes.... and we are all adults here so ask whatever you want ;)

 

However, in this instance I would talk to your Neurologist - you have a very specific medical issue that requires a specific management of your immune system so that you don't make the MS flare .... I'm guessing that you would be told to have him take the Valtrex/Acyclovir and you use the FC2 (Female condom) to reduce the possibility of you getting H to as low as possible (the female condom covers more of the genitals)...either way we are not qualified here to suggest how to balance your immune system.

 

Most of the discussions here about the immune system is for the H+ person.... your BF is the one who really needs to work on keeping his system as healthy as possible so that he can control the virus as much as possible. He can take things like Lysine which works for some to slow the virus down (you can google the Arginine/lysine balance and Herpes which will tell him what foods he may want to avoid (because they are high in Arginine), and he needs to do whatever he can to reduce his stress levels (Herpes LOVES stress :p )

 

It sounds like you are very open sexually so here is my suggestion to you.... Herpes can be a great "reason" to learn other ways to be sexual with your partner other than penetrative sex... so that is where I would be putting a lot of your energy.... I assume he has HSV2 genital (you didn't say which one it is) so you may want to incorporate a lot more toys and such for when he has OB's ... and he has to be 110% honest with you about when he *might* be having the prodrome (pre-breakout) symptoms.... so that you are put at as little risk as possible.... while Herpes is a nuisance for most of us, you just don't need any more on YOUR plate.... you have plenty to deal with as it is ;)

 

(((HUGS)))