Need a pep talk

[kitcattat]

Having the herpes talk.....yet again. The last time I did It went good then he changed his mind after a day. This is a new guy and I need to remember that theyre not the same person. Today im going to try to spin it off positively and see how it works. Ughh I hate getting prepped for these and usually bail on doing it...but I have to do this today and just need a lot of confidence building because I only see it going badly. Although I want it to go well and will hope for the best, I just havent had a totally successful talk yet. I hate this. Ugh and just got an outbreak today what are the chances of that?

[WCSDancer2010]

@kitcattat

 

Well congratulations for getting this far (again!)... some of us are having trouble even getting out of the gate :P

 

There have been a TON of successful disclosures on here recently. I think we as a collective group are coming up with lots of different ways to approach and discuss H depending on the situation... I'm continually learning myself in this area on here... so perhaps you should read some of the success stories to give you confidence....

 

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/2384/successful-herpes-disclosure

Bookworm_21

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/2386/ive-been-gone-for-too-long

klopz

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/2390/update-on-my-for-my-h-opp-peeps nic4897

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/2445/my-success-story simplyme24

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/2495/a-coming-out-story- DanieM

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/2544/disclosure silentstandoff

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/1644/having-the-herpes-talk-with-a-new-partner Daisy

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/2689/first-time-disclosing-herpes-and-very-very-nervous paleogardenerkika

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/2789/about-to-have-the-herpes-talk Empowered 74

 

And the OB is your body telling you to take a deep breath and trust that it will work out exactly as it should....

 

((HUGS))

[kitcattat]

Sometimes its hard for me to look at the big picture and not get caught up in the details. I know that if it doesnt work out that its meant to be that way but its hard not to get sad over it. Ugh I know im setting myself up for failure with my thinking, but sometimes I just would rather be pleasantly surprised than severely disappointed. Ahh..im so scared. I am just gonna reread what ive wrote so I can stick to what I wanna say. Thanks for the links WCS! And damn OBs always come when im freaking out about them and nothing else. So strange, its like they can hear me lol jk

[WCSDancer2010]

The great thing is that if you get past this conversation you know you have a winner because you have probably just had the toughest conversation you will ever have with them and survived it.... ;)

 

Good luck - I'll be cheering you on!