My ex won't accept that he gave me herpes

[lb32]

I found out that it was from my ex that I got my herpes. He didn't know that cold sores are a form of herpes. He won't believe me and he won't go and get tested. I just want him to be safe with other people, what can I do to help him change his mind?

[WCSDancer2010]

We have printouts on here that you can show him

 

Handouts:

http://bit.ly/h-opp-diagnosis-handout

http://bit.ly/h-opp-disclosure-handout

 

Disclosure e-book:

http://eepurl.com/b4IPP

 

but IMO for someone who is in denial, I'd show them the CDC's info here... you can't deny the info of the Gov't

 

http://www.cdc.gov/std/herpes/STDFact-Herpes.htm

 

Put a highlighter over the bit that says

 

How is genital herpes spread?

You can get herpes by having oral, vaginal, or anal sex with someone who has the disease.

Fluids found in a herpes sore carry the virus, and contact with those fluids can cause infection. You can also get herpes from an infected sex partner who does not have a visible sore or who may not know he or she is infected because the virus can be released through your skin and spread the infection to your sex partner(s).

 

Tell him he needs to go online and google "cold sores HSV1" and he'll get more than enough info.

 

((HUGS)))

[thisisgoingtobeokay (previ]

Or send him to me and I will give him a GRAND display of how it works and I guarantee he will believe you when I get done with him. I got it that way too. Everyone gives me the you are bs'n look too until I explain in depth how it happened. People are idiots, he is an idiot. Sorry that you are going through this.

[lb32]

Thanks for all of your advice and links to handouts! And it's nice to hear from other people who have the same thing I have. It seems that this is the "fun" one but if I talk to him again at least now I have some back up :)