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Don't know how to tell a new man I have herpes


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Hi, I really want some advice on how to tell this new man I am seeing that I carry the herpes virus. I am totally nervous to tell him, embarassed, and hate that I have to do it. He is a seperated man whom has kids....was married for years, such a long time. We have been seeing one another very casual for almost two mths, its a natural thing that we are getting really close intimately now it is sitting on my heart! HELP. I plan to write him a letter but want to know the coolest lightest way to do so! Thanks with love

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Hey SD74! Thanks for reaching out! Disclosure is huge. Definitely a common theme at our monthly support group. And what disclosure comes down to, in part, is how YOU feel about having herpes. Because how you feel about it will have a huge impact on how he feels about it. If you feel ashamed, scared, sad, he will feel that in you; if you feel self love, acceptance, honor, he will too. I always suggest disclosing in person if that feels right to you. Be strong in your vulnerability, integrity and authenticity. Treat disclosure as a special way to show that who you are is more important than what you have. Does any of this resonate with you? FYI there's another 6-week teleseminar coming soon if you'd like to join. I'd love to have you be a part! Check it out at http://herpesopportunity.com/herpes-seminar.php

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  • My mother is now in hospice with end-stage cancer, so I am at her house a lot these days helping where I can until she passes. Thank you in advance for understanding if I am not as quick to respond as I normally would be. This is a precious and bittersweet time …
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Fantastic! You are right and honestly I am not ready to really speak with him about any of this, so I am slowing down the relationship & seeing what he has to offer. I will def be part of that teleseminar! Wonderful thing you are doing luv! Stay well & thanks so much. I suppose I do need some self love & honor around this subject!!! One Love
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FYI, I just finished a new e-book called "The Positive Guide to Herpes Disclosure" ... you can download it here! Let me know what you think!

 

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  • My mother is now in hospice with end-stage cancer, so I am at her house a lot these days helping where I can until she passes. Thank you in advance for understanding if I am not as quick to respond as I normally would be. This is a precious and bittersweet time …
  • This content is for informational purposes only. This information does not constitute medical advice or diagnosis. I'm not a medical professional, so please take this as friendly peer support. 

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