Don't know how to tell a new man I have herpes

[SD74]

Hi, I really want some advice on how to tell this new man I am seeing that I carry the herpes virus. I am totally nervous to tell him, embarassed, and hate that I have to do it. He is a seperated man whom has kids....was married for years, such a long time. We have been seeing one another very casual for almost two mths, its a natural thing that we are getting really close intimately now it is sitting on my heart! HELP. I plan to write him a letter but want to know the coolest lightest way to do so! Thanks with love

[mr_hopp]

Hey SD74! Thanks for reaching out! Disclosure is huge. Definitely a common theme at our monthly support group. And what disclosure comes down to, in part, is how YOU feel about having herpes. Because how you feel about it will have a huge impact on how he feels about it. If you feel ashamed, scared, sad, he will feel that in you; if you feel self love, acceptance, honor, he will too. I always suggest disclosing in person if that feels right to you. Be strong in your vulnerability, integrity and authenticity. Treat disclosure as a special way to show that who you are is more important than what you have. Does any of this resonate with you? FYI there's another 6-week teleseminar coming soon if you'd like to join. I'd love to have you be a part! Check it out at http://herpesopportunity.com/herpes-seminar.php

[SD74]

Fantastic! You are right and honestly I am not ready to really speak with him about any of this, so I am slowing down the relationship & seeing what he has to offer. I will def be part of that teleseminar! Wonderful thing you are doing luv! Stay well & thanks so much. I suppose I do need some self love & honor around this subject!!! One Love

[mr_hopp]

FYI, I just finished a new e-book called "The Positive Guide to Herpes Disclosure" ... you can download it here! Let me know what you think!

 

[Next step]

@SD74 I know it's been a long time but just wondering how you've been with your disclosures?