First herpes outbreak mild ... questions

[Silliness]

ok here goes nothing-- Last week I noticed a small rub burn spot on my vagina - I thought nothing of it- having had some pretty rough sex earlier in the week before. I had a scheduled GYN apt that week so when I went the doc looked at it said it may be herpes - I wanted it tested he said it was expensive I said so do the test--- so here I am a week later and the results are in -- I tested positive for HSV2- now my OB was smaller than a dime and lasted less than a week- hardly painful except when urine touched it - I have had canker sores more bothersome and this is my first OB which I read was typically the most severe..... I am confused-----maybe I have a mild case? is that possible? ok I have a girlfriend as well as men I have sex with. are there any members who have a female partner without the virus? can I perform orally on her without as much risk?

[willow]

Hi @Silliness

ive had a very similar experience with the testing, and am still confused since january!

But anywho..

If you have hsv2 genitally you cant pass it by giving oral, if its not in your mouth, hsv1 is super common, but unlikly to transmit to the vagina unless a coldsore is pressent. If you notice a coldsore on your mouth, and want to perform oral, your best bet is to wait, or at least use a dental damn, you can even buy regualr male condoms, take it out of the package, dont untoll it, then with scissors cut half way in, then unfold! Easy makeshift damn to protect ur gal!

As for someone performing oral on you.. HIGHLY unlikely you can pass it to them, its still possible but the chances are really low of transmitting hsv2 from gennital to oral.

(I know theees statistics somewhere... maybe some one else coould post them????)

 

a sex specialist i saw told me to use the female condome if i wanted to have sex with a male just because then all the areas are protected inside and out!

hope this helps!

xox

 

[WCSDancer2010]

@Silliness

 

First - welcome

 

I need to correct one thing here before I go on:

 

@willow: HSV1 (from coldsores) CAN pass on to the genitals without a coldsore present .... 50% of new genital cases are HSV1... and most of the people were clueless that they had it (up to 80%) because they were not having OB's

 

So - you have HSV2 ... so you are reasonably safe to get oral - only 1% of Oral herpes cases are from HSV2 ... BUT, you still should tell partners so they understand that there is a very very small risk (they have a much better chance of dying en route to see you ;P ) And you can give all the oral you want ... you have H2 on your genitals, not your mouth ;) ... however, you need to be as cautious with genital contact with your female partners as you would with a male partner. H passes from direct, skin to skin contact...

 

Certainly the FC2 condom protects more of the area but it still isn't 100% safe... the good news is it doesn't have the effect on the guys erection and both people get good sensation.

 

As for the severity of your OB - you never know who will have a severe case and who won't, who will have lots of OB's and who won't have any. Herpes doesn't follow any hard and fast rules.

 

I'm giving you some links below with info so you can get educated... and read as much as you can here...there's a great FAQ section and a search button to look for particular topics ;)

 

(((HUGS)))

 

FAQs:

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/1758/frequently-asked-questions-on-herpes-and-popular-conversations/p1

 

Handouts:

 

http://bit.ly/h-opp-disclosure-handout

 

Disclosure e-book:

http://eepurl.com/b4IPP

 

[Silliness]

Thank you both. I appreciate those comments. I am so scared and embarrassed. I called everyone I came I to contact with (sexual contact I mean) in the last month or so and I got some freaked out responses but all were thankful I told them. Yes I am - correction have been- pretty promiscuous - I know - shame on me - anyway--- my girlfriend and "boyfriend" are dealing with being exposed - I don't know what to do for them. I don't think anything will work at this point. I am praying I don't lose them both - then I will be alone thru this. I am depressed and scared.

[willow]

@WCSDancer2010 and @Silliness.. im so sorry! I didnt mean to give fallse info! I wasnt aware that coldsore free on the mouth could still pass! Thanks for setting me straight

xox

[WCSDancer2010]

What's done is done ... and no shame in promiscuity .... BUT, if you speed consistently in your car odds are you will either get a ticket or have an accident but you won't feel shame....stupid perhaps, but not shame. Both driving and sex have an implied risk, and the more you push the boundaries, the greater the chance that you will have a consequence ... sadly most people are so poorly informed about HSV and HPV and Chlamydia that the numbers of all 3 are at epidemic proportions... that, combined with the CDC's policy of not testing and there are many in your situation who could have avoided it ... or at least greatly reduced their risk of getting it.

 

As for your GF and BF, well, you just have to help them to get educated and informed (HINT: Send them HERE!) and accept how they deal with it.

 

(((HUGS)))

[Silliness]

Ok the knot is back. Woke up this morning sat straight up. With a panic - heart racing and verge of tears. Stomach is one big knot today. Nothing impactful happened so I don't know what the deal is. I need to shake it so I can work. Bout started crying already today. Haven't found anything to clear the doldrums yet so I am writing. Sometimes that helps talk myself out of the blues. Who knows. Called my doc today cuz I am almost done with the valtrex 1g twice a days and have to take an antibiotic for BV - couldn't do both at the same time. But I wanted to start suppression Meds - so I called and got the ok to take the 500 mg once a day and the antibiotics together. I also read this morning about possible fungal causes? Is that just nutball Medicine or is there some realism to the possibility that this is fungal in nature instead of viral? Idk--- I am in a funk today. Hope it passes. Really I hope it does. I'm supposed to spend time with my gf this weekend and I sooooo need to cuddle- it may be selfish but hell I need a damn hug ... Ok well breaks over. Gotta get back to work!

[WCSDancer2010]

If you tested positive for HSV2, you have HSV2... AND, you could have a yeast infection as well (and you may well have one once you finish the antibiotics as they often upset our systems). Herpes has a way of helping us fix our diets ... and so does Yeast infections ... get off sugar and refined carbs.... if you are itching after you do the antibiotic ask to be tested for yeast. (BTW, your question just puts you right in the "denial" phase of the grief process.... which is normal ... ;) )

 

Sounds like you are having Anxiety issues. If it continues, a *short* spell of an anti-anxiety med (and take the smallest amount you can get away with) may herp you get through this but don't get reliant on them ... you need to process the feelings to come to terms with your status .... but there are times we need to focus on work or whatever and if you are a hot mess sometimes you need a little help to get through it ;)

[Silliness]

I'm seriously considering asking for a Xanax or something mild to help. At least with sleep. I am going to go work on the tornado clean up tomorrow - I live near little rock Arkansas so I am hoping that the activity will help deal with the stress. At least get my mind on something else for a little while. I feel like I want to scream and cry and throw up ---

[lasko]

my first OB was super mild as well! only one sore that cleared up quickly on its own an didnt even scab...its been my only one so far an my blood tested positive so im not sure how long ive had H2... i was curious bout me having a "mild" case as well! glad to read someone feels the same way

 

[Silliness]

Thank you for sharing @lasko. How long have u been since your ob?

[WCSDancer2010]

@Silliness

 

When you are on the clean-up look at all those people - what they have lost ... it may help you to get some kind of a reality check on all this :)