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Must be a baffling feeling to find out you've had something for years and not know.. For me, a sore appeared 2 days after and I knew something was up. But I feel as though I can empathise with you, "I wish..that..I knew all I know now... when i was younger!" *side note- good song- listen to asap! My mom at age 50 found out her constant sinus infections were cause of a nose fracture when she was an infant or toddler, she never knew she even had a fracture to begin with!? It happened, don't know how, don't know why, but now she can deal with her sinus issues properly... aka - but now, You can deal with your body properly. When "h" appears in our lives, it is overwhelming because of the significance it stands for: change. A change occurred to your body, you are finding out now because now is the time to change yourself. What have you not done to yourself that has pissed your body off? Did you forget to love yourself? - are you Happy? Energetic? Reflective? Powerful? Evolved? Soulful? THAT is what herpes stands for. This is another wake up, and "Mama Gia isn't trying to hurt you, she is trying to guide you... " What would someone who loved themselves do? First, heal, mourn, reflect, then go out and let "h" empower you.

@PresentMoment hi and thanks for the comment! I am doing pretty well... found that bf ive been looking for, 4 1/2 yrs with "h" and just celebrated 4 yrs with the bf! Hope everyone else is doing well!

I personally think u gave enough time... 10 days! but remember that especially in the first year, it is common to get o.b. after o.b. It might have healed, and then u have sex, which could trigger another, and it will heal and something else could trigger yet again another o.b. I suggust the next time u have sex, use a lube for sensitive skin, nothin fancy P.s. -When my o.b. are gone, i usually wait 2 or 3 days. Hope this helps xox

She would have had to have had an open sore, rubbed/touched it, and then rubbed/touched you directly after. Highly doubt she gave u hsv, unless she had hsv1 orally, and had a coldsore present or chapped lipps. You'll be ok

I would deffinatly get a culture swab test done. It could be a fisher, or tear from sex, could be small o.b. of hsv. And i hate to say it, but anyone can get hsv, condoms do not always help, as hsv could be anywhere in groin area, and condom only covers/protects certain areas. Personally, it sounds like a fisher, but just get swabbed in case.

Drink a ton of water, it helps dilute your pee. I use small amount of coconut oil on the sores several times a day. Buy 'Bactine' spray. It really helps with the pain... seriously. Take a bath with epsom salts. Helps relax and soothe all over! Hope this helps! xox

I agree with @LadyShellisandre, I got hsv 2 back in dec 2014, one nighter, had sores 2 days after one nighter. I swabbed possitive in jan 2015, . And had negative blood tests, for quite a while, 6 months... is was the 2nd week of june 2015 that i received a positive blood test.

I am a firm believer in medicinal canibis. Or naproxen (over the counter) for nerve pain. I also am a firm believer in coconut oil anď bactine spray for topical. Try adding l-lysine high foods into your diet, and try cutting out argenine foods. H travels through your nerves before they surface (if they surface that is). Sometimes before or after an o.b. is when i feel nerve pain.

Hang in there! Though stress plays a huge roll with triggers, It's not exactly the enemy. The work stress and life stress you experience will be continous throughout your life, remember too you've been able to handle theese stresses in the past*, if you tend to get o.b. during/after specific stressfull events, use this to clarify where you need guidance/help. Be that diet, sex, emotional...etc. That way the next similar stress factor wont phase you as much. One less trigger, and its good for your soul. Use this time now, to know yourself, pamper yourself. Go for a walk, have a relaxing bath ( careful with soaps and other irritants), read, give yourself a facial, something calming and relaxing to you, whatever it may be! xox

Hi #Mygirl007, I totally understand your frustration with the unknown, nurses and doctors don't always take the time to talk about hsv 1 or 2. If you and your partner both have hsv, I personally wouldn't bother with daily, unless you are getting o.b. after o.b. and it's driving you mad. Taking antivirals is a personal choice. You don't have to take them, and it's not the end of the world if you miss a day. I would keep some on hand for times you think you might be getting an o.b. as the antivirals help with the symptons, but keep in mind they will not always make the o.b. dissapear. When my o.b. is gone, i personally would wait 3 to 5 days, but if your partner has it too, i would say have sex when your're comfortable. Because you can't pass it, if they have it. Sex can cause an o.b., or time of month, or stress or anything really, once you know your triggers, you can start to preppare better, and possible avoid the o.b. i try to double my daily valtrex dose when it's my time of month for example. Take the time to learn about your body, . Hope this helps! xox

You have a way of such calmness in youre reactions! I am so glad you had amazing responses from your friends!Update us when he gives you a thought through answer!..

This is an amazing speach! Love how it can be used for anything that someone could be going through!

First i need to tell you, everything WILL be ok!!!! Diagnoses sets one off in a craze of emotions at first. But once you read up and get as much info on it as you can, your emotional state starts to calm down. I was diagnosed feb 2014 with hsv2. Good ol one night stand had me shocked 3 days later. And it might baffle you to know that i disclosed to a man in the end of may 2014, after only knowing him for 2 weeks.... and geuss what, it wasnt horrible! He accepted me as me. He accepted me with herpes, being celiac, allergic to latex, and anxiety issues. We just celebreated our 2 year anniversary. Once i found this site, and had help from everyone here, i became more in tune with myself. I get flareups maybe 4 or 5 times a year, my main trigger is my time of the month so i take birth control for about 3 months straight, and double up on antivirals when im on time of the month. I take daily dose of antivirals as a suppressant and to help protect my man. He doesnt have it, and i havent passed it to him. As previously posted, have some YOU TIME!!! You are worth it! You ARE beautiful. You ARE amazing! There is so much more to life than to be worried or upset about it. (Or anything else for that matter!) I was bullied alot in HS too. All my "friends" turned out not so nice, or moved away. As i said i have anxiety issues, and when i have a melt down, herpes is the LAST thing on my mind. If i could i would hug you right now, on this site you can vent or question as much as you like, and it helps so much to get it off your chest! Hang in there friend, this is going to be dust under a rug very soon! I promise you that. One more hug

Same here... but i thought id mention it as the dehydration from drinking can cause problems so drinking water is super helpfull especially when on antivirals.

Woah the eff! I totally agree with the others... Change Doctors!!!.... Now! 1st... the liver isnt harmed while on valtrex, unless your boozin it up, then the liver *may* get harmed. The key here is to drink lots and lots of water! 2nd... ive been on valtrex for over a year now. I take 1 pill of the 500mg every morning. And if i feel a prodrome a take an extra one at night for a couple days. 3rd... if you feel that u want it to help protect your partner, then you have a right to take the meds.if transmission rate 4% female to male, then with protection its lowered to 2%. With valretex its now at 1% transmission. *** BUT... the assymptomatic shedding will be cut down anwhere from 50% - 80%. hope this helps xox

Of course its tempting! Alot of things in life bring curiosity and temptation, one thing ive learned with having h, is when my bf and i need to wait a bit, the temptation grows stronger, the want is unbelievable, and then ... when that moment comes, when u know uve waited a safe amount of time, your sexualy senses are sooo intensified that it makes the waiting worth it! .... kinda like waiting for christmas to open ur gifts from santa... haha

As far as i understand the virus so far, youll want to wait a couple days ... 3 to 10 days after an o.b. if u feel itching, or a slight tingle, or anything like that (aka prodromes), i would avoid sex for a few days untill those feelings go away. As the virus is present when u feel these prodromes. Note that when u feel a prodrome, that doesnt always mean ur about to have an o.b. but it can be a warning sign of one comming on. For example, i was a lil itchy sunday evening and monday. That uncomfortable feeling was gone yesterday, but i want to wait untill at least fri night or sat night for sex. (So im waiting 3 days after prodrome), im on daily suppressives as well as my bf is negative. If you want, you could try taking L-lysine when u feel anything happening. I take 2x 1000mg 3x a day when i feel prodromes/have symptons and it helps me. Lysine doesnt work for everyone tho. Good luck and hope this helps!

K thanks for ur input @WCSDancer2010!!

So i know to usually wait 3 to 10 days after an o.b.to engage in sexualy activity.. but im wondering how long to wait after prodromes, No ob? I had itchy/discomfort started sunday evening, no sores, no blisters (yet, lets hope) . Doubled up my valtrex sun mon tues, as well as took a hefty amount of lysine. Wake up today and throughout the day feel fine. So how long should my bf and i wait for sexy time? (Im also on suppressives)

@WCSDancer2010 is right! The more u think about it... the more u feel it, and *sometimes* what you feel is just in ur head. the end of this month will be a year for me and things have been alot better fot me since i started taking suppressives in june. And when i think i feel an itch or tingle i take 2x 1000mg L-lysine 3x a day for a day or two. And i go for at least a half hr walk , especially on those days. Use these feelings as warning signs that u need to focus on u and ur life. All "h" is trying to do is get u in tune with urself again! Its hard to not think about it, especially when ur newly diagnosed, or upset with other life issues, but if you try to stay focused on what truly matters, "h" will walk back to dormancy again. Know what i mean?

@Im44, thank u for posting an upbeat msg! And as for the previous comment about the good feelings going away... pfft whatever! This december 23 will be a yr since ive contracted hsv2. And i am more than thankfull for it. (Wasnt at the time of course!!) So happy to hear u found someone who loves u for u! Thats all anybody really wants in this world, and i honestly think thats its those of us who have gone through hard times, that get the best out of life in the long run! keep up the positivity and dont ever look back!

Hi @ Han13!! I felt the need to respond cuz im hoing through the same thing. I agtee with @WCSDancer though that its most likely NOT herpes... Where i live theres been quite the chamge in weather, minor cold snaps, hot then cold weather... -18 to +14... i live in lower B.C. Canada and ive come to the conclusion its a mix of weather/tempurature change mixed with rubbing my lips together from using chapstick. Best advixe i have right now is to use a lil vasaline at night, and avoid salty amd spicey foods for a cple weeks... hope this helps?

Thank YOU dancer! Your contribution to this site has been uplifting. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! And im sure... from the bottom of everyone else's heart too!

http://m.netdoctor.co.uk/sex-and-relationships/medicines/valtrex.html

Speaking of piano.... it was my first instrument! Got a seseme street keyboard when i was 2-1/2, havent stopped playing since. Love writing new tunes!! (On an upright grand now) I got to see george thorougood 2 or 3 years ago, soo awesome! And saw supertramp, i almost cried it was so surreal!