What if new person does not get test after I asked 6 times

[joancharlotte]

He says he doesn't want to know what he has

[whitedaisies]

Then don't risk it. That's not a very mature attitude for someone engaging in sex and it shows that he doesn't care about ur health.

 

Run!!!

[joancharlotte]

Thank you thats what I thought.

[whitedaisies]

Sure. Good for u!!!!!

 

Go with ur gutt.

[whitedaisies]

Big hug!!!!!

[joancharlotte]

Just told him that no sex until. but we can go out for dinner if he wants.

he said dinner.

maybe waisting my time with him. Friendly dinner is ok

[whitedaisies]

My opinion u are wasting ur time. He is showing he doesn't respect u. Why would u want to be with someone like that?

 

I am generally not very opinionated on here.

 

Good luck

[joancharlotte]

last weekend I went out on a first date POF and the guy started talking about sex after a few drinks wanting me to go home with him. i just said nothing. He was my age and was treating me nicely otherwise. then he said lets go to movies. so i said ok. in moves he put his hand under my skirt. i said nothing and just moved away. then when he texted me two days later i toid him off . do these men really think us woman will jump into bed with them so easily? and risk our health? Disenchanted with mens behavior.

[joancharlotte]

I guess I must be desperate in not wanting to be alone.

Thanks for your words I appreciate your outside objective opinion.

[joancharlotte]

Its very hard for me to tell him the date is off. I am in duality.

[whitedaisies]

This guy wants a quick lay in my. Opinion.

 

Everything he is doing is showing he doesn't respect u.

 

Just be careful. Sometimes being lonely is a better option than being wih a total asshole!

 

My opinion is find someone else. There are plenty Of good fish!!!

 

Xo

[joancharlotte]

thanks. appreciate your reply and time.

[whitedaisies]

Hugs and good luck ok?!?!?

 

Xo

[seeker]

sigh, im guessing he is in the under 35 crowd? not saying there aren't cads in my generation but I wouldn't dare just put my hand under a womans skirt on a date nor would I be bringing up sex that soon. on behalf of my gender I apologize. dump the bum and then sell the dump truck you dumped him with.

[WCSDancer2010]

last weekend I went out on a first date POF and the guy started talking about sex after a few drinks wanting me to go home with him. i just said nothing. He was my age and was treating me nicely otherwise. then he said lets go to movies. so i said ok. in moves he put his hand under my skirt. i said nothing and just moved away. then when he texted me two days later i toid him off . do these men really think us woman will jump into bed with them so easily? and risk our health? Disenchanted with mens behavior.

 

@seeker - sorry but there are a lot of guy in their 50's who do this too .... *sigh* ... and joancharlotte is a grandma like me :(

 

@joancharlotte - OK - here's the deal. He's not into YOU - he just wants to GET into you. Period. He's not even trying very hard to cover that up. He also has no regard for HIS health so he's not going to worry about yours. Only 3 words for this one...

 

RUN FOREST RUN!!!! lol :D

 

Don't stay with someone just because you want to be in a relationship. Take it from someone who has tried that a few times - doesn't work... not worth your time or tears :(

[seeker]

@ dancer, really? damn I mustve been raised right then. I still hold the door for a woman open the car, get out and pump her gas, etc. southern mom for the win.

 

I will say this, with no outward signs most people, esp men are not going to go to the doctor. however every relationship I ever entered we always did an std test before going all out ( a test I now know doesn't include H1 nor H2).

[joancharlotte]

Thanks all of you, I really appreciate your opinion. It was a help.

[myfiercecalm]

And from a younger male, trust me, this guy is bad news. He only wants sex, and I guarantee he has other women he is trying to get the same from when he's not with you.