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Lips zipped about herpes

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This is an awesome site! Thank you my dear! What I am reading here reminds me of the positive, not defined by herpes attitude I had when I was first diagnosed…I was a mere baby in my twenties…lol. I spoke of it freely, I educated and enlightened folks when I could, I did not ever hang my head, and I did not expect people to shun me (probably because I would not have shunned them…funny how we project). Then one day a friend pulled me aside and said I should stop running around telling people I have herpes…I should realize that it is embarrassing and gross and that nobody wants to know this information. I was stunned…I felt so foolish. I immediately zipped my lips and began to feel worse and worse about myself. Now at fifty-something…I’m a …well, a reserved extrovert whose lip is still zipped on the subject, and I still feel foolish…but now not because I have herpes and I dared to talk about it but because I realize I let this world steal my joy. I’m glad I found this site…thanks again!

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I loved that you said when you were in your 20′s that you spoke of your herpes freely! … How refreshing… because really you were acting normal and not ashamed. If we all were able to talk so freely then it wouldn’t be such a big secret… meanwhile so many people have it and most people (in the U.S. anyway) are to afraid to talk about it because std/herpes = sexually promiscuous or slut or loose… meanwhile anyone can get it and herpes does not equal bad - it just means that we have a virus. Ahhh and yes … so good to have a sense of humor about it.

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Yes, I love the genuineness in that, the freedom. Thank you for sharing, reservedextrovert and thanks for chiming in, Lori! You know what I wish for you, RE? I wish that you can access that genuine side again, that side that doesn't give a flip what other people think, and own your strength and freedom. I can hear your playfulness and zest for life in that post. And most importantly, that deep-down-body desire to reconnect with it! So here's to reconnecting. I can feel it comin' on ... ;)


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