"No" or no call backs are often a blessing

[caterpillarmonarch]

I posted this as a comment on another discussion, but thought it'd also be a good discussion on it's own.

 

As we've discussed often on these forums, "no" can be a major blessing.

 

My friends and I were discussing the "joys" (major sarcasm) of online dating. I wasn't getting a lot of callbacks after first dates when I was online dating, so I decided to swallow my pride and ask a couple of the guys for feedback. I asked them to be brutally honest. One responded "I was just looking for a housewife" which I'm definitely not. Another one (props to him for really being honest), basically told me he just wanted to sleep with me and when he realized I was more of a long-term woman, he wasn't interested.

 

I wanted to share this because what I learned was that, in both cases, the "no" had nothing to do with me and their "no" was a blessing to me because neither of these guys wanted what I wanted.

[PositivelyBeautiful]

Couldn't agree more @caterpillarmonarch! Most of the time when someone walks away, it has nothing to do with us. It's not easy to understand sometimes, especially if you feel a connection, but if someone really likes you, and is genuinely interested in you, it shows. If someone let's you go, it's probably for the best... so let them go.

[WCSDancer2010]

Can I get a Hallejulia and an Amen over here????

 

And one of my favorite recent quotes:

 

If someone walks away from you, let them go. If they come back that means nobody else wanted them either LOL