Dating only people with herpes to avoid rejection?

[ElysianDame]

If you have herpes should you only date people with herpes as to avoid rejection and/or stigma of having "THE TALK" with a person who doesn't have an STD?

[ihaveittoo]

No, you don't have to limit yourself like that. Here is a link to WCSDancer 2010's blog.http://supporttruthanddialog.com/.

 

The most recent entry is about online dating. The entire blog is well worth your time to read if you have not already. The entry about herpes being your wingman should be required reading for all hsv+ people out there in the dating world.

 

 

[ElysianDame]

Oh my! That was informative and straight up awesome. Thanks a lot.

[ivoryrain]

I said I would only date someone who was HSV+ because I'm selfish and don't want to do suppressive antiviral therapy. Well, it's funny how life and people change things. You shouldn't let H decide who you can and can't date.

 

I've found that when it comes to disclosing, if you're like, "Hey, I have this inconvenient virus, but it's really no big deal since I know this, this, and this about it," people are much more accepting than if you're like, "I have this god awful incurable STD that everyone is terrified of" lol.

[WCSDancer2010]

Thanks for the shout out @ihaveittoo :)

 

As for dating... beyond my blog (and some great discussions and a video that Adrial has created about just this subject ... links below) I strongly suggest that you read as many "Success Stories" as you can on here ... most are about members who are dating a H- partner ... including all their angst leading up to the disclosure .. AND, sometimes a rejection can be a Success Story too... ;)

 

Remember, when someone rejects you, it's usually telling you a LOT more about them (Good AND Bad) than it is about you .... and remember the Salesman's motto ... "Every No is just helping you to get one step closer to a Yes" ... meaning, once you know the person isn't interested (for ANY reason) they have done you a favor and given you space for a "Yes" to come forward.

 

http://supporttruthanddialog.com/using-herpes-as-your-wingman/

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/5897/my-first-disclosure-story

http://herpeslife.com/herpes-forum/discussion/3309/successful-herpes-disclosure-but-not-for-the-reasons-you-might-think

 

 

Herpes as a relationship filter Adrial

[ihaveittoo]

My pleasure @WCSDancer2010. I think your blog has information that I would consider the gold standard of dealing with H.

[WCSDancer2010]

Thanks - I really need to focus on getting some more blogs up .... just going in too many directions at the moment :)

[seeker]

H pos people can be less then stellar also. I recently put myself out via PM to someone I met thru a H support meetup and didn't even get the decency of a rejection, nothing but crickets. think rejection sucks, try indifference. just to make matters worse a few days later guess who pops up on one of my dating sites " we have matches for you" emails??

 

freakin Asian massage parlors are lookin pretty good right now.