Scared of sex

[burnbrighter]

how do you move on and stop being scared of sex if somebody is willing to be with you? I'm seeing somebody who has oral hsv1 and I have ghsv1 so I know that it doesn't shed as frequently and being on suppression therapy chances are like 1% chance I'll spread it to him over the time span of the year, but how do you get over thinking every little thing from an ingrown hair to an itch is a prodome? I just obsess about every little thing and I fear this will ruin my sex life more then the actual virus will.

[WCSDancer2010]

Well for one thing, the risk is less than 1% for spreading GHSV1 in those circumstances given that it sheds about 60% less than HSV2 (which is where we get the 5% risk without protection from) and your guy already has antibodies to it. So right there you have something to chew on ... he's not as at risk as you thought.

 

Beyond that, read this blog by the brilliant Ella Dawson ... she discusses the issue of shared responsibility and the reality of getting your mojo back :)

 

https://ellacydawson.wordpress.com/2015/05/09/herpes-two-years-later-on-sex-without-condoms/